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I have no advice. (If I did it would be catastrophic). Instead, I'm going to give Mrs. Kodiak a hug. You just reminded me of all the crap she's put up with these past 35 years. 
Good luck my friend. Only you know if she's worth it.
Good luck my friend. Only you know if she's worth it.
... oh, so that goes for HER, but it sounds as though she refuses to extend that same way of thinking to YOU?? errrr, hypocritical much?
then again of course we're not there with you, and of course it's way too easy to misconstrue a vibe based on reading something online. but in the spirit of responding to your question, this really seems like a control thing on her part .... that's what it sounds like to me, from what you've said.
again, i have to say "I dunno".
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There are worse hobbies and FAR worse habits. Does your condition feel more at ease when you are vaping / tinkering? It could be that you subconsciously gravitate to vaping because it helps with your schizophrenia?
I can't say for sure, but a friend whom I used to woodcarve with was diagnosed with schizophrenia and his doctor told him one of the best things he can do (besides his meds) is to find a hobby that would keep him busy, especially his mind. He swears his condition improved and was able to lower his dose on the meds. Not saying you should intentionally lie to your significant other, but it is a very viable reason if it is truly helping you with your condition.
Good luck to you either way. I hope it gets easier for you!
I can't say for sure, but a friend whom I used to woodcarve with was diagnosed with schizophrenia and his doctor told him one of the best things he can do (besides his meds) is to find a hobby that would keep him busy, especially his mind. He swears his condition improved and was able to lower his dose on the meds. Not saying you should intentionally lie to your significant other, but it is a very viable reason if it is truly helping you with your condition.
Good luck to you either way. I hope it gets easier for you!
Personally i would try to convince her to accept my habit. But if you dont want to go thru that or are having trouble doing it...
If you are into vaping mostly for the nicotine (not so much for flavor), why not get yourself some tasteless liquid? you know, just nicotine mixed with VG or PG?
It would be nearly tasteless & smellless, she couldnt complain about that
If you are into vaping mostly for the nicotine (not so much for flavor), why not get yourself some tasteless liquid? you know, just nicotine mixed with VG or PG?
It would be nearly tasteless & smellless, she couldnt complain about that
I've been vaping unflavored for several years now and it is my favorite vape. people around me say there is no smell. some people think it tastes like lite cigs. would be worth a try.
Hi,
I have been married for 43 years and a smoker for most of them, my wife is a non smoker so I had to go elsewhere to smoke...now I vape (since JUne this year my wife is happy BUT...there is always athe But isn't there my wife doesn't like the aroma from flavored nic..so I have the unflavored 24mg nicotine and as long as I don't blow the vape her way she is happy...I have COPD so she is happy I don't do analogs, I don't smell like an ashtray, I don't cough and so on.
I do lung inhales also so very little 'cloud' production.
Hey she either like me vaping or I smoke and die young...
Jim
p.s. the last statement is in humor...
I have been married for 43 years and a smoker for most of them, my wife is a non smoker so I had to go elsewhere to smoke...now I vape (since JUne this year my wife is happy BUT...there is always athe But isn't there my wife doesn't like the aroma from flavored nic..so I have the unflavored 24mg nicotine and as long as I don't blow the vape her way she is happy...I have COPD so she is happy I don't do analogs, I don't smell like an ashtray, I don't cough and so on.
I do lung inhales also so very little 'cloud' production.
Hey she either like me vaping or I smoke and die young...
Jim
p.s. the last statement is in humor...
Thanks again for all your advice. Next order I will try nicotine only. As for the hypocrisy and time tinkering, I love fixing things(computers, hairdryers... etc) and my life is good other than spending that time away from her and being blamed for it.
We've been through a lot and I just want her to be happy with me but she may just need more time to realize that I'm still the same as when I proposed.
Maybe I'm not though because of the distance. I've lost 30 lbs since vaping and everyone thinks I look sick.
I feel great, work out, eat well, but can't gain it back.
I try a low pg or 50 50 mix usually on a mod Russian 91% 18 mg nic
I'm using the timer and decreasing my vaping habits and that seems to give me a sense of reward/anger at the same time. Nobody wants to be controlled but I'm a pushover and I know it so... I'm sorry but I'm rambling and I just got home from work, so ttyl and thanks.
We've been through a lot and I just want her to be happy with me but she may just need more time to realize that I'm still the same as when I proposed.
Maybe I'm not though because of the distance. I've lost 30 lbs since vaping and everyone thinks I look sick.
I feel great, work out, eat well, but can't gain it back.
I try a low pg or 50 50 mix usually on a mod Russian 91% 18 mg nic
I'm using the timer and decreasing my vaping habits and that seems to give me a sense of reward/anger at the same time. Nobody wants to be controlled but I'm a pushover and I know it so... I'm sorry but I'm rambling and I just got home from work, so ttyl and thanks.
You've been diagnosed with schizophrenia. For reasons we do not yet (and may never) know, nicotine is nearly as important to you as oxygen!
In order to vape a little less of the time, you might try going from 18mg to 24mg (or mixing the two).
As far as "smelly" goes, RY4s (which I also like) are notorious for smelling to some people like wet gym socks!
My suggestion would be to try some fruit or vanilla/bakery vapes, or some coffee or tea vapes. Flavorless is also a great option.
Good luck and God bless!
(Also, ten years??? Y'all may need to sort out some issues regarding that lengthy delay, too . . .
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In order to vape a little less of the time, you might try going from 18mg to 24mg (or mixing the two).
As far as "smelly" goes, RY4s (which I also like) are notorious for smelling to some people like wet gym socks!
My suggestion would be to try some fruit or vanilla/bakery vapes, or some coffee or tea vapes. Flavorless is also a great option.
Good luck and God bless!
(Also, ten years??? Y'all may need to sort out some issues regarding that lengthy delay, too . . .
)
I guess no one would be interested in my special blend of Garlic and Onion then.
I really, really would like to have your recipe for that.
Tobacco juices are ones I used to not vape around other people much, when I vaped tobacco juices. I do a lot of menthol these days and my wife doesn't like the smell of that if I have a lot in a juice. OTOH, most fruits are good and bakery flavors are too.
Good luck with it
Is this a real e-liquid? If so, where do I get it? I could totally get away with vaping that in customer's houses when working on certain items! (I am a plumber.)
I guess no one would be interested in my special blend of Garlic and Onion then.
That sounds delicious! Sign me up!
Just, when your hanging out, don't vape. Unless you live together, in which case, try to reason with her
If your girl feels like a third wheel because you occasionally take 5 minutes to yourself to vape, then you probably need to get a diagnosis for her as well.
Your nicotine is a self-medication, but you are just now finding that out.
Her control issues are NOT beneficial to you, and will only get worse over time. Ask me how I know...
Your nicotine is a self-medication, but you are just now finding that out.
Her control issues are NOT beneficial to you, and will only get worse over time. Ask me how I know...
As a man married to an addict, alcoholic and selfish self centered woman I can guarantee you that you will continue to fight this battle. My wife went through rehab and got herself sober but she is an addict and can't/won't ever be able to be "normal" and live without her nicotine as it is the one vice that most addicts need in order to cope, continue and survive.
It took me coming home and finding my wife in a passed out black out for me to open my eyes to the reality that no matter how much we love our signifigant others, we are not responsible for their happiness. Eventually you have to live for yourself and accept who you are as an individual.
The way you have described what you have already given up for her and yet she still isn't happy and still trying to control every aspect of the relationship only means that you will continue to give up everything in hopes of trying to make her happy and you will continue to feel inadequate time and time again.
Seriously look at who you are as a person, as an individual and also take a look at your friends (or what few you have after her involvement in your life) and ask yourself if she has also limited your friends, your family and your potential. If you find yourself looking at these things and realizing the true proportions to her control I can only ask that you make a rational judgement and ask if you can continue to give up your things while she has given up very little.
You can do it alone and you can do it together, but don't keep giving yourself away in hopes of making another person feel happy about themselves.
To relate to you my mind opening realization to what I had sacrificed for my wife, I will list off the things that I lost in the years before my eye opening experience. I have lost everything 3 time over. I have lost my kids, two homes, 4 cars, numerous close friends, thousands upon thousands of dollars, troubled relationships with my own family and 2 jobs. When I finally had that "moment" I took it and ran and have started living for myself again. I have a great new job where I now make double what I could have imagined 5 years ago, I have a new home, I am working on a new truck, I am happy with my life and myself and yes we are still together and yes I am there for her in her sobriety but I stopped living for her and her perceived happiness. Only you are responsible for yourself and only you can decide what you need and what you want.
No one here can tell you the proper answer but hopefully by us sharing our insights, our lives and our experiences you can gain insight into yourself.
Good Luck and best wishes.
It took me coming home and finding my wife in a passed out black out for me to open my eyes to the reality that no matter how much we love our signifigant others, we are not responsible for their happiness. Eventually you have to live for yourself and accept who you are as an individual.
The way you have described what you have already given up for her and yet she still isn't happy and still trying to control every aspect of the relationship only means that you will continue to give up everything in hopes of trying to make her happy and you will continue to feel inadequate time and time again.
Seriously look at who you are as a person, as an individual and also take a look at your friends (or what few you have after her involvement in your life) and ask yourself if she has also limited your friends, your family and your potential. If you find yourself looking at these things and realizing the true proportions to her control I can only ask that you make a rational judgement and ask if you can continue to give up your things while she has given up very little.
You can do it alone and you can do it together, but don't keep giving yourself away in hopes of making another person feel happy about themselves.
To relate to you my mind opening realization to what I had sacrificed for my wife, I will list off the things that I lost in the years before my eye opening experience. I have lost everything 3 time over. I have lost my kids, two homes, 4 cars, numerous close friends, thousands upon thousands of dollars, troubled relationships with my own family and 2 jobs. When I finally had that "moment" I took it and ran and have started living for myself again. I have a great new job where I now make double what I could have imagined 5 years ago, I have a new home, I am working on a new truck, I am happy with my life and myself and yes we are still together and yes I am there for her in her sobriety but I stopped living for her and her perceived happiness. Only you are responsible for yourself and only you can decide what you need and what you want.
No one here can tell you the proper answer but hopefully by us sharing our insights, our lives and our experiences you can gain insight into yourself.
Good Luck and best wishes.
She's jealous of the time that you spend away from her vaping. Yet, she's the one that sends you away to vape.
Find a more subtle/pleasant flavor. If she refuses to tolerate ANY flavor, it's her that's causing the problem, not you and not vaping.
Find a more subtle/pleasant flavor. If she refuses to tolerate ANY flavor, it's her that's causing the problem, not you and not vaping.
My experience is very similar. I explained to her that I have no other vices or spend money on myself for other things. As long as I don't go crazy buying new gear, she's okay with it.
Buy a couple of spittoons, put them in strategic locations and explain to her that you're going to switch to chewin' tobacco since the vaping bothers her so much.
I guess no one would be interested in my special blend of Garlic and Onion then.
Can I get that with a couple Anchovy flavor shots? Yummmmm!
Based on the replies I've seen here OP, this is the last place you should be getting relationship advice.
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