Vaping and your relationships?

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t2ak

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I'm sure there is a thread already. I searched for a bit and didn't find much. Besides, I am curious and lazy :D

I am just curious how vaping had affect your relationships past and present with your significant other, friends or family. Has it affected new relationships?

So far in my six month adventure, my girlfriend was extremely put off by it. Mostly because it singled her out as a smoker. It was kinda rough for a minute. I stopped going outside to have a smoke with her and that was a lot of the problem. I could never show her my first micro coil (that worked) without some sort of tension. After awhile I got the hint and pinned the issue. I started to only go out with her to vape and spend less time in the "lab" playing with my vape toys around her. Over the last month or so, she has cut smoking by 2/3 and as of the last week started vaping. Needless to say things are back to normal.

On the other side of things.

One of my best friends and I just went out on a double date, (i think) the third date with a guy. She has not used her PV in front of him until tonight. We are outside at another friends music gig. When she did, he treated it as if she was smoking cigarettes and wouldn't accept it. Telling her the usual "you dont know whats in that" routine. She stayed pretty calm and we all decided it would be better to go back to my place, her date not included. Sadly, that's probably over. She's a little distressed about it but still maintains that if he can't accept her and her habits for what they are then it isn't going to work.


So I guess we (the best friend and I) are curious to know how vaping has changed other peoples relations good or bad.

Thanks for your input.

Sincerely,
The Meerkat, The Chinchilla and The Giraffe.
 
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Well, I discovered vaping after my wife and I got together, so she's been mostly supportive. She knows it's the only thing keeping me off the analogs. She isconcerned about the unknowns of inhaling vapor but figures it has to be better than smoking. My family members see it as a temporary cessation tool and want to know when I'm going to quit vaping. If I was dating, I would be using my PV the first time I met somebody. I'd want to find out right away if it was going to be an issue.
 

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I smoked for 20 years with a non smoking hubby. WHen I decided to try vaping money was VERY tight. When I told him how much the ego kit was going to costs and that I was worried that if it didn't work it would be the kit + cost of cigs, he said to me "Honey you are making a positive change for our life together. We will find a way."

Yep I got a keeper.
 

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Well, I discovered vaping after my wife and I got together, so she's been mostly supportive. She knows it's the only thing keeping me off the analogs. She isconcerned about the unknowns of inhaling vapor but figures it has to be better than smoking. My family members see it as a temporary cessation tool and want to know when I'm going to quit vaping. If I was dating, I would be using my PV the first time I met somebody. I'd want to find out right away if it was going to be an issue.

Me, too. I'd never want to keep dating someone who was closed minded about these devices and the whole process. It's not worth the angst, my time, or any frustration.
 

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My most cherished relational improvement is that my G-babies hug me a LOT longer than 31 months ago!
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I do owe many an apology to my family, friends, co-workers and strangers for my past self-centered addiction! BUT, dose days are *poof*!
 

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Hasn't really affected mine only because my fiances already used to meet grtting wrapped up into things when I get interested in it. Which has cause some major problems but finding a middle ground fixed all that. Plus she started the same time I started back up, she's not as into it as I am but she does get excited for all the juice flavors lol.
 

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Hasn't really affected mine only because my fiances already used to meet grtting wrapped up into things when I get interested in it. Which has cause some major problems but finding a middle ground fixed all that. Plus she started the same time I started back up, she's not as into it as I am but she does get excited for all the juice flavors lol.


I totally read that as finding a middle finger ground...lol
 

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I tend to be a bit standoffish, so those people who really know me, know better than to make ignorant statements like that to me. If someone asked me when I'm quitting vaping, my response would most likely be to look them dead in the eye, have a puff, and state on the exhale "when you pry it from my cold dead hands."

My husband encouraged me to try again and get a kGo kit after the cigalikes didn't work for me, without his support I'd still be smoking. Since I then converted his father and brother, we're all just a bunch of happy vapers in here.My father and step mother are interested in getting themselves some kits, which I'm going to help them shop for the next time I visit. I'm thinking an evod kit for my step mother, and a steel mechanical and tektank for my dad since he's so hard on his various gadgets.

Otherwise, nobody really gives me a lot of crap. I can stealth now and then in class and my instructors don't bat an eyelash, they're aware it's harmless enough. As for random meandering strangers, sometimes they'll stop me to ask about it since they're interested, and I'll chat about it.

Those who want to preach at me get told to piss off while I re-install my earbud and turn my music back up to drown out the sound of their righteous whining.
 

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Ive wondered the same thing myself. I am about a year and a half out of a long relationship and havent dated anyone new. My ex was a smoker herself so we would have gone to vape together most likely. Alot of women I know absolutely positively wouldnt date a smoker because of the smell it leaves on clothes, hair , etc. Since vaping my non smoking friends have commented that I dont smell anymore and will actually ride in my truck and they all say the vape smells good. If someone is open minded and give a vaper a chance I feel they would say the same but you never know. All I know for sure is if I meet a love interest that smokes I will try to convert her to vape!
 

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Well, I discovered vaping after my wife and I got together, so she's been mostly supportive. She knows it's the only thing keeping me off the analogs. She isconcerned about the unknowns of inhaling vapor but figures it has to be better than smoking. My family members see it as a temporary cessation tool and want to know when I'm going to quit vaping. If I was dating, I would be using my PV the first time I met somebody. I'd want to find out right away if it was going to be an issue.

That's how my girlfriend feels about it now. Its nice :)

The best friend doesn't use it much at all. Mostly when drinking which is why it came up.

I smoked for 20 years with a non smoking hubby. WHen I decided to try vaping money was VERY tight. When I told him how much the ego kit was going to costs and that I was worried that if it didn't work it would be the kit + cost of cigs, he said to me "Honey you are making a positive change for our life together. We will find a way."

Yep I got a keeper.

Sounds like you two get along very well :)

Its kinda funny. My girlfriend used to hate my vapemail. Now she is right next to me every time I open the package, excited and asking questions. She now has her own vapemail so she completely gets it.

I think she's a keeper too :)
 

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My most cherished relational improvement is that my G-babies hug me a LOT longer than 31 months ago!
snoopy.gif


I do owe many an apology to my family, friends, co-workers and strangers for my past self-centered addiction! BUT, dose days are *poof*!

That's awesome!

I love your outlook on this! I never thought about it quite like that.
 

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Excellent topic!

My significant other was straight edge before anyone knew what straight edge was. Don't smoke, don't drink, what do ya do? Goodie-goodie-two-shoes (this reference is probably lost on many).

But she loved me, I loved her (still do, not past tense). But whenever we traveled she always requested a smoking room because she was a long-suffering sweetheart and I was the smoker.

When I finally switched to ecigs she had two reactions: 1) no more stink! and 2) no more sweet-smelling tobacco on my moustache. She didn't like the smoke smell but she loved the smell of tobacco on my 'stache.

All in all, though, vaping definitely improved my relationship!!!!!!!!
 

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Hasn't really affected mine only because my fiances already used to meet grtting wrapped up into things when I get interested in it. Which has cause some major problems but finding a middle ground fixed all that. Plus she started the same time I started back up, she's not as into it as I am but she does get excited for all the juice flavors lol.

I'm the same way. I cycle through my rc helicopters, playing music and much more random hobbies I have acquired over the years. She had long ago figured me out along with my eccentricities.

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I'm the same way. I cycle through my rc helicopters, playing music and much more random hobbies I have acquired over the years. She had long ago figured me out along with my eccentricities.

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My wife and I have struggled with trying to quit for a decade. I've always been the bad influence but she always enjoyed "being bad again" but also drew the line first with "this is our last pack, ok?". We have 4 kids....

Vaping has brought us even closer together. We lay in bed and vape and talk every night and love it. We both feel great physically and mentally. Vaping has been a huge positive on health and marriage. Our marriage has always been fine but now it's even better.

My friends and family think it's great. They are totally cool with knowing we aren't smoking and we aren't struggling with trying not to smoke. I feel very blessed and thankful.

There will come a time in the near future where everyone is cool with it. In pretty sure about that. But we're clearly not there yet.
 
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