What my crazy (analog smoker) wife did yesterday.......

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Claudia P

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Maybe, but usually when we are really angry the things we really think are what come out, the things we really feel and have held back.
She was wrong to do what she did, but what has gone on or been said that got her to this point. I see a toxic relationship coming from both sides. He asked, we responded with what he said made us feel.

If this marriage is going to work it definitely needs some help. I read, somewhere a million years ago, the rules for arguing and the most important one was to attack the situation not ever the person. Think about what you say in anger because those words can never ever be taken back, the person they are directed at will never forget them and they will eat at them like a cancer.



I believe in getting things off your chest. better to come here where we are all anonymous and rant than to take out your extreme anger on the person or hold it in until it does someday expode! posting here gives a person a safe place to rant. and an adult is going to make his/her own decisions, not base them on anonymous people's opinions. and there is something to be said about feeling support from others.



but anger does sound like that. really, hasn't everyone said things in anger that they wouldn't normally say? and again, what better place to rant than an anonymous internet site?
 

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AH! those passionate early years of marriage. Or is she a redhead?

HEY! I resemble that remark! My husband's favorite joke: How do you start an argument with a redhead? Talk to her.


And to the OP - I am not sure you ever answered the question about how long you have been married, but I have been married for 17 years, and with my husband (living in sin) for 3 years before that, so 20 years here.

And while I don't agree that the act of her throwing your gear in the creek is in-and-of itself cause to end a marriage (no matter how long you have been together), I do think that it tells you that something deeper is going on there. I don't think you should shrug it off , and don't excuse it away by thinking "aw hell, we all do crazy things" - this wasn't the same as punching a wall in the middle of a heated argument. She obviously thought this through (she waited until you were in the shower to do it), her actions were hostile and with intention to hurt you. I'm not even going to speculate about what may really be going on with her or with your relationship together because I don't know you or your wife from Adam or Eve. But if you are still reading this thread, just consider that possibility and see if you can have a calm discussion with her that tries to get to the root of her hostile and destructive behavior.
 
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Lol yep if she's a redhead that explains it. I'm a Irish redhead and hubbys half Irish makes for some fun fights lol. But even us redheads have a reason. we just don't like to talk about whats really wrong. We find something petty instead of the real issue which is probably worse than what we let on we are mad about.
At least that's how I am I'd rather gripe that the garbage didnt get taken out than to say you have not been spending any time with me.

Oh god I love redheads...the taller the better! <---apparently masochistic.
 

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She decided that my vape gear was making me go crazy and ruining my health, so she took about $200 worth of my vape gear (SVD, SS Zmax, with Protanks and batteries) while I was in the shower getting myself ready to go to work, and took them to a creek near our house, and tossed it all in.........she believes that I'd be better off to go back to analogs......
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The truth is that in the last six of the eight months since I'd quit the analogs, I've felt like a million bucks! I am of sharper mind than I think I've ever been in my entire life too.

So I took away her smokes, and now I feel kinda sick from smoking analogs because my order of 3 SVD's, 3 Protanks, and 4 batteries will take a few days to get here........and in the meantime......
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Now I sit and wonder which one of us is the dumbest of the two....not sure really....
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you just can't fix stupid, can you?:p
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Isn't life funny?

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All I got for this one.
 

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I don't think the money is the issue, although a while back she did get upset because I had spent a bit to get myself set up. She doesn't work, but the money is no issue because I've got plenty and she is completely free to spend as much as she sees fit from out of the joint account that my paychecks go into automatically. She does spend as she wants, but she's frugal like I am for the most part, and rarely overspends or spends on frivilous things....but she does that sometimes...but I don't mind at all and never give her grief about her spending. I spend on frivilous things too sometimes...so I give her that freedom with what money WE have together, because she is part of this nuthouse just like I am, and has equal right to share it all.

Now that is a class act on your part:toast: you guys are gonna be just fine:vapor:
 
Wow, dude. Just wow. I'm willing to bet this isn't the first time this broad's exhibited this kind of psycho behavior. If I were you I'd be drawing up the divorce papers at this moment. And it has nothing to do with the fact that it was vaping gear she destroyed. This sounds like the kind of chick that you might wake up to find holding a knife to your throat. Bottom line is, I wouldn't trust her with jack squat anymore.
 

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I don't even know what would make me more mad - the fact that she threw away the vape gear or the fact that she threw it in the creek!
Yeah. Great. Now I'm going to have to avoid going fishing when I move to Missouri next year. There's nothing worse than fish trying to bum cartos and juice to support their habits.
 

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I'm not justifying ANYTHING.

Attempting to find a CAUSE for something is not even in the same BOAT as attempting to justify something.

Perhaps I misread your tone then. The post, to me, sounded rather hostile toward the OP, as though you wanted him to understand his blame in it. I'm glad that was not your intent.
 
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