-Mark, that was very well-said and you're very self-aware. Well done, and we can probably all understand where you were coming from. I feel the same anger, Shari. Makes me upset, the situation you're in
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-Mark, that was very well-said and you're very self-aware. Well done, and we can probably all understand where you were coming from. I feel the same anger, Shari. Makes me upset, the situation you're in
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Bless your heart, Top, I did NOT know this and can really use it ... thanks for the pointer!
Good Morning Everybody!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope you all have a great day today!
Top congrats on your 1 week more bananas!!!!!!!!
Delores, thank you for your well wishes!
Shari, keep doing what you are doing, DH will eventually come around, you know what to do.
Going to rest up and be back a little later!
Top congrats on your 1 week more bananas!!!!!!!!
Delores, thank you for your well wishes!
Shari, keep doing what you are doing, DH will eventually come around, you know what to do.
Going to rest up and be back a little later!
Now I know I am living in a construction zone. Everything is covered in plastic and plastic 'doors' from one room to the next. Leak is fixed, mold being treated. I have not said a word to anyone.
Sometimes that's the best thing to do. As you have said it is his house if he screws it up it is his problem not yours. I am a strong believer in shutting up and letting them make their own mistakes and as long as I keep my mouth shut there is no way they can blame me for their mistakes. It works pretty well here most of the time and he has actually learned to take responsibility for his actions. The minute you speak up then that gives them the validation they need to lay the blame for everything on you.
Claudia, that is the perfect solution. Keep my mouth shut and let it all go to h#ll. Problem is that I have been working on that particular character flaw most of my life and just can not seem to be successful at it. I have a real hard time standing by and watching someone do something that is going to cause more damage. I just spent 20 minutes explaining to DH and the contractor how working with an insurance company works. We have to wait for the estimate/check to come in to know whether we try to save the buckled hardwood or replace it, same with the island and dishwasher. This decision affects the order of other work being done on the job. Why am I having to explain this to a CONTRACTOR who has built houses and been doing remodeling for 30 years. Duh. Am I the only person who can think beyond point and shoot? I really do not get it.
I also AGAIN explained to the contractor why we need his estimate in writing. The money will not be released in full until his paperwork is given to the ins co. We no get dollars; you no get dollars. Period. End of story. Contractor is still not getting it. I think he is playing a game to see if he can get DH to tell him how much $ ins is giving us and he will make bill match it. I want his $ estimate up front. So far DH is siding with contractor/friend. At least we are no longer yelling at each other.
They did the Killz type stuff in kitchen. OMG, the smell is unbelievable. DH says we can live in bedroom tonight. There is going to be no cake in this house for a while.
I also AGAIN explained to the contractor why we need his estimate in writing. The money will not be released in full until his paperwork is given to the ins co. We no get dollars; you no get dollars. Period. End of story. Contractor is still not getting it. I think he is playing a game to see if he can get DH to tell him how much $ ins is giving us and he will make bill match it. I want his $ estimate up front. So far DH is siding with contractor/friend. At least we are no longer yelling at each other.
They did the Killz type stuff in kitchen. OMG, the smell is unbelievable. DH says we can live in bedroom tonight. There is going to be no cake in this house for a while.
Tell him he can have cake on the brand new granite countertop, and not a minute before. See how long it takes to throw that thing together!
Oh, I feel for you on home repairs in general and men in particular. My s/o IS a contractor, you should see what happened when he remodeled my kitchen! I went from a full pantry to a tiny cabinet for dry goods, due to the placement of the refrigerator. And the countertops are cool but no larger than they were before, and the cabinets got reduced as well. MEN.
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6 months smoke free!
Bananas and cucumbers welcome, but let's remember that it's all due to my friends in this thread, and not so much my part. . .
6 months smoke free!
Bananas and cucumbers welcome, but let's remember that it's all due to my friends in this thread, and not so much my part. . .
This is why I thought it might be perfect timing for you to visit your new grandbaby and take your mind off of it. A least you don't have to watch. One way or the other, he'll figure it out.
Whoo Hoo!!!!! An Amazing 6 months. Wow!!! And with 2 kids in the house; more amazing (to me). Here come da bananas!
These ones are to keep you in shape!
These ones are just because.
I am so happy for you. I knew you could do it.
These ones are to keep you in shape!
These ones are just because.
I am so happy for you. I knew you could do it.
Shari you paved the road, I just followed your footsteps. Thanks for the kudos guys, it feels nice. Just got done yelling at the kids and s/o until I'm hoarse, go figure. Why do people pick absolutely the worst time to get on my last nerve? I haven't even gotten in the front door yet and I'm already ...... off. Go figure. . .sure could use a cigarette right now.
Ok you all. Who is a gardener or wants to be one. I have a stack of gardening magazines, many of them with garden designs. I hate to throw them out because they are beautiful and there is a lot of good info in there. Who would like them/some of them. I will send them off and you can start dreaming of spring days and flowers and trees turning green. At least one of you is a gardener.
I also have some home decorating/design magazines and how to magazines. Any takers?
It is awful quiet in here.
I also have some home decorating/design magazines and how to magazines. Any takers?
It is awful quiet in here.
good evening everyone hope ur doing ok, took the test today. wont know until monday if i passed.
thats what im on now
congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 6 months is fantastic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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