Chit Chat in VOLTVILLE Thread #2 :)

[3mg Meniere]

0mg, I made a vow to never be like she was, to never treat people like she did.

Those who hate often become like those they hate.

 

[JerryRM]

Those who hate often become like those they hate.

Exactly !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Uncle]

0mg, I made a vow to never be like she was, to never treat people like she did. I felt that forgiving her was part of my healing process. To go on with my life and let the past be.

YEP . . . BEEN THERE - DONE THAT . . . I cannot Forget - But I can Foregive all of those who were/are guilty . . . Actually came to that same realization a long time ago, even before counseling . . . NOW - The one thing to also remember, is that they probably didn't know any better - especially if they went though the same thing as they were growing up . . .

BTW: That's so good Ya' decided not to "be like her" . . . But, while it is not easy to do - hopefully Ya' can also remember that because of "her" - "YOU" Became A Better "MAN" - by having that experience . . . Just Sayin' . . .

Surprise !!!!! Yup, you are human, Uncle.

AH GESS - THANKS - I appreciate the validation . . .

 

[SandySu]

Not really. It seemed like you had been struggling with the project that I sent you a few months ago.

I haven't had a chance to look at that for a long time. I tend to do that with optional things, things I don't have to do. I refuse to do things that should be fun and interesting out of a sense of obligation. A job is different, but it's like that picture of Gabe, which is also on the back burner along with several other projects. And now Deb wants me to do another portrait of Corky. No deadline, but since I'll be paid for it, I'll get to that sometime next week, probably. Jobs demand more of my time and respect than hobbies, it seems.

 

[3mg Meniere]

Will get back to you later on that. $$ is nice. Now that multiple run-throughs are not interfering with my work, I am making better progress.

 

[SandySu]

Speaking of things falling by the wayside, remember when I volunteered for the local library? Well, I haven't been there since before Christmas. Recently, I got an e-mail asking if I was still interested. I feel terribly guilty. But I think I should tell them I just don't have the time. Something always seems to come up. Sure, I could squeeze in some time out of my days, but then I'd feel under pressure. Volunteer time and hobbies should be relaxing, so if I need to feel under pressure to do something, I really need to not agree to do it. When I volunteered for the library, I foresaw a lot of empty time on my hands, which quickly filled with more immediately demanding projects like tutoring. I hate to do it, but today, I have to answer the e-mail and say I can no longer volunteer for the library. Sigh!

 

[Renolizzie]

I get overstressed when I volunteer.

Tonight's rump roast dinner is in the crockpot with a home grown onion, a little salt and pepper and a bay leaf.

Home grown summer squash will be fried up with another onion, alttle garlic, salt and pepper, then finished with a little Parmesan cheese. Finally, I also pulled some potatoes out of the garden this morning so boiled potatoes, butter and a hint of paprika. nom, nom. I also got a few tomatoes.

I got my irrigation project du jour done. Of course, it took more time and effort than I thought it would seems like splitting the zone into two zones worked great!

Hummingbird feeders washed out.

Tablecloth washed and drying on the line.

Done for the day. Yay!

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[cindycated]

I get overstressed when I volunteer.

Tonight's rump roast dinner is in the crockpot with a home grown onion, a little salt and pepper and a bay leaf.

Home grown summer squash will be fried up with another onion, alttle garlic, salt and pepper, then finished with a little Parmesan cheese. Finally, I also pulled some potatoes out of the garden this morning so boiled potatoes, butter and a hint of paprika. nom, nom. I also got a few tomatoes.

I got my irrigation project du jour done. Of course, it took more time and effort than I thought it would seems like splitting the zone into two zones worked great!

Hummingbird feeders washed out.

Tablecloth washed and drying on the line.

Done for the day. Yay!

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OK, so if I leave right now, I should make it in time for dinner at your house, right?

Oh, wait - I'm vegetarian! But that sounds delicious, Lizzie!

 

[cindycated]

Speaking of things falling by the wayside, remember when I volunteered for the local library? Well, I haven't been there since before Christmas. Recently, I got an e-mail asking if I was still interested. I feel terribly guilty. But I think I should tell them I just don't have the time. Something always seems to come up. Sure, I could squeeze in some time out of my days, but then I'd feel under pressure. Volunteer time and hobbies should be relaxing, so if I need to feel under pressure to do something, I really need to not agree to do it. When I volunteered for the library, I foresaw a lot of empty time on my hands, which quickly filled with more immediately demanding projects like tutoring. I hate to do it, but today, I have to answer the e-mail and say I can no longer volunteer for the library. Sigh!

Things come up and I'm sure they understand that. You don't have to feel bad about it, but yes, please do have the courtesy to let them know that you're no longer available. If I were them, I would want to know sooner than later, rather than be kept hanging. They're probably just updating their list anyway.

 

[rave]

Thanks, Raven. I was fine, until I got out of the Army and came back home.

That'll do it.

And psychiatrists should quit thinking they are doctors. I didn't start improving, until I dumped my shrink and the tranquilizers. Neither one did me any good.

I was lucky. Even though I never had a shrink because I couldn't afford one, I happened to become best friends with one that I car-pooled with daily. That experience was a real eye-opener to me. She had me pegged from day one, and no one had ever done that. It was through her that I found out the reason why I have severe anxiety over an over-abundance of input: lights, sounds, voices, masses of humanity, chaos, any man-made input. She was the one that diagnosed me with autism. It's a mild case, and I'm able to function within society because of some of the tricks that she taught me, but it can still be debilitating. I function best in nature.

You could be right. I never had them until I had the first one many years ago and it was a doozy. I was hyperventilating and didn't know it until the paramedics told me. I know how to prevent that now but not the gut wrenching, sickening feeling I get. Luckily it doesn't happen as often now that I don't have to work but stress still triggers it, that's why I need to move to a more suitable environment where it is quiet.

I truly do believe that this will help you.

My experience with abusive people is to set strict limits on them and their behavior around me, and then get rid of them entirely ASAP. I've decided to have as little to do with that type as is humanly possible. Maybe it makes me a sort of hermit, since so much of the world is crazy, but that's better than the stress of dealing with crazy people and trying to make sense out of their behavior when there is no sense to be made of it.

One case in point is the barn owner where I board Penny. I think she's truly crazy. I don't want to have to deal with it, so I try to see her at the barn as little as possible. I go during the early part of the day before she gets home from work. Most of the time, I'm at the barn by myself, and it's better that way, since the other people seem sort of weird -- either erratic like the barn owner or self-absorbed like one of the other boarders and the instructor. One other boarder seems nice, but I rarely see her, too.

Uncle, I think it helps to have problems similar to the people you counsel. If you've been through it and found solutions, then your experience and success can be inspiring and helpful to those you counsel.

That's been key in my life as well. My second husband was abusive. It took fleeing the state to put all of that behind me. I was able to close that entire chapter and start a new one.

Yup, Q. I don't hate my mother, I forgave her after she died, even though she never admitted or apologized for what she did to me. It was her problem and she had to answer to God for how she lived her life. I hope that God went easy on her.

I agree, Jerry. Forgiveness is so important to moving forward. It's not easy, but it needs to be accomplished.

Forgiveness can be quite a challenge. Understanding why people do what they do can be a large pert of the process.

I am enjoying seeing you being open about another part of your life, {{Jerry}}

Yer so right. Sometimes it's difficult to understand why people act as they do. If you try hard enough, you will eventually be able to empathize. Then you can forgive.

Those who hate often become like those they hate.

Oh so very true.

 

[SandySu]

I took a walk around the neighborhood today. It's been a while, since I had pneumonia about a month ago, then rested up in any spare time I had, so I never did get out for walks. I was amazed at how far along the flowers are. I think somewhere deep in my mind, I expected them at more or less the stage I left them last, as if life outside had stopped when life inside slowed down. Hmm ... maybe that's why I thought it was still June, Lizzie.

So they have started putting siding on the house across the street. It's been a very long while since I reported on its progress, mainly because they were doing interior work, and there wasn't much change to the outside, once they got the basic structure built. So here's the house as it is now.

 

[JerryRM]

What a great group of intelligent and wise people on this thread !!! I'm glad to call all of you my friends.

 

[Qew]

I took a walk around the neighborhood today. It's been a while, since I had pneumonia about a month ago, then rested up in any spare time I had, so I never did get out for walks. I was amazed at how far along the flowers are. I think somewhere deep in my mind, I expected them at more or less the stage I left them last, as if life outside had stopped when life inside slowed down. Hmm ... maybe that's why I thought it was still June, Lizzie.

So they have started putting siding on the house across the street. It's been a very long while since I reported on its progress, mainly because they were doing interior work, and there wasn't much change to the outside, once they got the basic structure built. So here's the house as it is now.

Thanks for the update Sandy, I've wondered how the restoration was going on that house. It looks to me like they are not putting all the windows back the same way. I hope I'm wrong. I hate to see old houses loose all the gingerbread and detail to 'updates. I know it is a pain for maintenance, and probably really costly, but I still hate to see that stuff go.

 

[SandySu]

I think you're right, Q. Here's a picture of the house as it was before the fire.

 

[JerryRM]

I think you're right, Q. Here's a picture of the house as it was before the fire.

A great, old Victorian house !!! It would be really nice if they put back the gingerbread trim !!!

 

[awsum140]

I suspect they will look the same, or very close, once the detail above the windows is installed. The windows have the same number of mullions, so now it's just getting that nice detail work done, and that's probably not going on until the siding gets to the tops of the windows.

We had a full afternoon and evening, so far, of thunderstorms. The worst of it has managed to miss our little piece of "paradise", but it has rained pretty hard. Tomorrow is supposed to be nice, but when I went out to Costco before noon it was like walking into a steam bath.

Lizzy, are your sprinkler zones ahead of or after the pressure regulator? I am seriously considering adding two zones, manual valve controls, for the flower beds around the house plus the existing zone for the garden. All I'd need to do is get an "X" and some valves. I already have heads and the 1/2" and 1/4" tubing.

 

[cindycated]

Thanks for the update Sandy, I've wondered how the restoration was going on that house. It looks to me like they are not putting all the windows back the same way. I hope I'm wrong. I hate to see old houses loose all the gingerbread and detail to 'updates. I know it is a pain for maintenance, and probably really costly, but I still hate to see that stuff go.

Hmmm, double doors up in the middle. Looks like they're putting a deck up there, huh? I bet that whole bottom front is coming down.

 

[rave]

What a great group of intelligent and wise people on this thread !!! I'm glad to call all of you my friends.

Me too, Jerry. That's why I've always called Voltville "home".

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Nothing quite as frustrating as having your power go out for three hours right before you're expecting cross-country company. It's back on now. Sure hope it stays on.

Terry & BF are now about 17 miles away, but stopping for a bite to eat. Wish I had that .gif handy of the woman dancing in her chair because she's so excited.

 

[JerryRM]

You need to whip those hamsters more often, Raven. They have a tendency to slack off if they aren't whipped or fed frequently.

 

[JerryRM]

Hmmm, double doors up in the middle. Looks like they're putting a deck up there, huh? I bet that whole bottom front is coming down.

Probably not, Cindy. The doors will open to the roof of the porch, which is fairly flat. That may be the "deck".