I got child support when I got full custody and even after the parental severance. LOL. Sadly it was almost ALL freaking spent ON repairing the ex's child rearing TRAUMA. So it was kind of a wash. Although, after the severance I didn't feel at ALL guilty. I was like, "This is blood money for THREATENING the kid over summer visits he'd send his illegal workers after me and my husband if the kid mentioned his relapse. LOL. I did not feel guilty after that.
Heh, I DID feel bad for letting the ex inadvertently KNOW that the kid requested a name change (first and LAST) because they were HIS family names. He called for an update and I was busy talking about "Wolffe" and my ex was like, "Who is Wolffe."
I wanted to say it was my son's new dog, but it didn't really FIT. The kid never told me he didn't mention it but I FELT AWFUL.
I was like, "Um next time I'm just going to tell the ex that I will mention he wants to know.
Still, glad to have it for all that therapy legal fees, etc. LOL.
It was the ONE good thing I could say to the kid his dad did. Etc. I do say it, but MAN I don't want to get anywhere near the dude, I don't blame the kid even slightly.
You can be a dad or a sperm donor, but trying to do both not so easy. I ALWAYS had my fingers crossed but it just wasn't happening.
Anan