Shinyitis Support Group

[Javichu]

Javichu, g'day mate, as you know I did what you do, nursed my mum and dad through cancer by myself withought a day off.
It was hell and what you are describing is typical feeling from a sole care giver. But I would do it again if I had too, they deserved it as they were the best mum and dad a kid could have.
There was times when I just wanted to get in my car and drive away, I felt suffocated, distressed and sooooooo tired, neither of them slept at night so neither did I.
What you have is burn out and if you have the chance of "time out" and to get away...take it.Don't be like me and over suspicious of the social services who can help you. My biggest regret is I refused help when it was offered, stupid me, it all took a big toll on me.

So mate, accept help when offered, I thought I could do it all myself.Don't be like me! Get away and enjoy a few days or whatever without the 24/7 responsibility!

Thanks for the kind words buddy.

Yeh,sorry you had to go thru all that by yourself.
Back when my mom went thru colon cancer i had a ton of people to help me,still we fought for 2 years until well you know ''it'' happened.

Now with my pops its different because its just me,hopefully social services will give me hand and maybe in September i can take some time off.

Still they keep on pushing me to put my pops in a home which i always reply with a HELL NO!!,i will do what i can do until i cannot do it by myself anymore,then and only then i will ''think'' about it.

Now that i think about it i may have a good solution for a weekend off,this married couple i met like 2 years ago needed some help with buying their first apartment.

They are spanish but they were a bit overwhelmed by the signing of the deeds and the mortgate of the house they were buying so i gave them a hand with that.
After all was done they offered to pay but they were already in the red after the notary expenses and what not and they still had to buy some furniture for the house so i just told them to buy me dinner and we would be even.

Nice ladies in their 40's,one was an artist she did beautiful landscapes and portraits and the other one i just remembered was a manager of a Spa that is like 150 km. from where i live.

Might give them a ring and ask to meet up,tell them my situation and maybe just maybe i can get a nice discount for the weekend,now that would be ideal.
Nice natural thermal waters from a spring,sauna and some relaxation is what would make most of my stress just go away.

Good thing i remembered,this might pan out and end up being the weekend off i need

 

[DeloresRose]

Morning all!

@Javichu I feel for you. I know how hard it must be, and you’re burned out. Is there anyone you can reach out to? I wish I’d had the sense, when I was caring for my husband, to ask if someone would pick up my mail, or a loaf of bread. Just those little things that take 10 minutes so you know you can get around to them, but if someone could do you the favor, you’d get 10 minutes of rest and watch a funny video, or listen to some music, anything to catch your breath.

sending you hugs. And you’re doing great, I want you to know that. I know how screwed up your life feels right now, but you will never regret one minute of taking care of your dad.

 

[DeloresRose]

I didn’t get one for review but Bob really liked the Havok pod mod.

I’m getting one for review so I didn’t read Bob’s- avoiding plagiarism lol.

 

[DeloresRose]

Javichu, g'day mate, as you know I did what you do, nursed my mum and dad through cancer by myself withought a day off.
It was hell and what you are describing is typical feeling from a sole care giver. But I would do it again if I had too, they deserved it as they were the best mum and dad a kid could have.
There was times when I just wanted to get in my car and drive away, I felt suffocated, distressed and sooooooo tired, neither of them slept at night so neither did I.
What you have is burn out and if you have the chance of "time out" and to get away...take it.Don't be like me and over suspicious of the social services who can help you. My biggest regret is I refused help when it was offered, stupid me, it all took a big toll on me.

So mate, accept help when offered, I thought I could do it all myself.Don't be like me! Get away and enjoy a few days or whatever without the 24/7 responsibility!

I totally understand the desire to run away. My husband was dying fast, so I wanted to spend every second I could with him. He died in 2015. But my mom was diagnosed with dementia in 2019. And that sounds like a long time between but it felt like minutes. I was lucky to have family to share that task with because there’s no way I had it in me to be the sole caregiver again.
I had a lot of slow, hellish deaths in a row. I just pray however I go, it’s fast.

 

[Pigs]

I totally understand the desire to run away. My husband was dying fast, so I wanted to spend every second I could with him. He died in 2015. But my mom was diagnosed with dementia in 2019. And that sounds like a long time between but it felt like minutes. I was lucky to have family to share that task with because there’s no way I had it in me to be the sole caregiver again.
I had a lot of slow, hellish deaths in a row. I just pray however I go, it’s fast.

Would give you a hug if I could

 

[hittman]

Hiya fellow Vaperinos

Had a couple of minutes from doing the usual ''taking care of pops'' thing so i thought i pop in and say hi.

On the shiny front not much to say,waiting for my Limited Edition Coolfire Z80 & Zenith II to arrive,i do hope i get the Spanish version.
Or in its default the French version and hope that @charlie1465 gets the Spanish version so we can trade

Vaping wise i just keep on using my Juggy Mini clone,hopefully in September i will start getting translating gigs again so maybe i can afford to get a real one.
Still struggling with the different flavors of aromas,got 2 i ''enjoy''....barely to be honest,so when i can afford it i try out some new aromas but so far it has been meh with a side order of meh with meh for dessert.

On the personal side of things this summer is killing me,the heat is just exhausting and day after day its the same thing...days just blend in together and it is the same thing with no changes or nothing to look up to.

I guess all caregivers go thru phases like this but i am finding it hard to get thru the day...

I come into ECF,i like/love/winner some posts,maybe a scarce comment here and there but to be honest i just don't have it in me to post more.

I seriously need some downtime,at least a day or two.
I talked with the Psychiatrist over at social services and asked her if they had any volunteers to cover me for like a couple of days,she said maybe in september.

If i do get someone to stay over for a couple of days with my pops i am taking a small roadtrip,plenty of countryside close to where i live so i would be taking the car and camping somewhere.
Don't have any gear but i know someone who might lend me just a tent and a sleeping bag,that is all i need to be honest.

But yeah this situation i am in is slowly eroding my mental state...not much i can do about that anyway,it's the cards i have been dealt so i just try to get thru each day while trying to remain in a sane state.

Well anyway big hug to all my friends here in ECF,love you guys and i hope you all keeping healthy and being safe

It's a great and selfless thing you are doing but you are going to have to find a way to have some time to yourself to keep hold of your sanity. I live about 650 miles from where I grew up and when my father started going downhill it was my sister that took care of him. She couldn't afford to quit work but spent as much time there with him as she could and did cleaning and meal prep and stuff for him. Sometimes did his grocery shopping so he didn't have to pay to have them delivered. I thank god that my sister was there to help him or he would have ended up in a home. In the end he did go to a home but only for a short time before he passed. I'm glad he was able to stay at his home as long as he did. I flew home a couple times there toward the end and helped move stuff out of his house and visited with him but it was my sister that did the most and I'll always hold her in high regards for her care giving.

 

[NolaMel]

I almost forgot that I sent you that one. Glad you like it.

It’s heavier than I expected, but I guess that’s the trade off for having a replaceable battery. I ordered .6 coils for a cooler vape.
My favorite of the suorin is the air pro. I use it a lot as an out and about device. Nice RDL af, good flavor, and it holds a lot of juice for a tiny device. The shiny finish is a fingerprint magnet, but that’s the only downside I’ve found. The tiny Ace is good, but the pods are tiny like the mod lol.

 

[NolaMel]

I'm loving this mate
Vandy Vape Jackaroo Pod Kit 2000mAh 4.5ml
It's in the same class as the boost...only better. Super smooth airflow on the drop in coil pod. The RBA is worth getting to.

Based on your glowing report, I ordered one. I’m looking forward to it

 

[Javichu]

Javichu, g'day mate, as you know I did what you do, nursed my mum and dad through cancer by myself withought a day off.
It was hell and what you are describing is typical feeling from a sole care giver. But I would do it again if I had too, they deserved it as they were the best mum and dad a kid could have.
There was times when I just wanted to get in my car and drive away, I felt suffocated, distressed and sooooooo tired, neither of them slept at night so neither did I.
What you have is burn out and if you have the chance of "time out" and to get away...take it.Don't be like me and over suspicious of the social services who can help you. My biggest regret is I refused help when it was offered, stupid me, it all took a big toll on me.

So mate, accept help when offered, I thought I could do it all myself.Don't be like me! Get away and enjoy a few days or whatever without the 24/7 responsibility!

Wish social services did more but since our situation isn't in the emergency list (don't have children under our care) we don't really rank that high in the list so they do what they can.

I did talk to the social worker and the psychiatrist and told them that for now i am ok but i am not getting any better and i need some time off.
Hopefully they will be able to find me a volunteer or someone so i can take a couple of days off and not have to worry...
Feel bad for you buddy that you had to go thru the same thing,i really do.

Morning all!

@Javichu I feel for you. I know how hard it must be, and you’re burned out. Is there anyone you can reach out to? I wish I’d had the sense, when I was caring for my husband, to ask if someone would pick up my mail, or a loaf of bread. Just those little things that take 10 minutes so you know you can get around to them, but if someone could do you the favor, you’d get 10 minutes of rest and watch a funny video, or listen to some music, anything to catch your breath.

sending you hugs. And you’re doing great, I want you to know that. I know how screwed up your life feels right now, but you will never regret one minute of taking care of your dad.

Unfortunately its just me and my pops.
My pops has 2 sisters in the same town we live in but meh,they just call on christmas to invite us over and thats about it,and to be honest it doesn't even sound like a real invite.
Its just them trying to have a clean conscience so yeah no help on that front,worst even is on my mother's side.
My moms sister did keep in touch when my mother was alive,only reason was so she could bring her also alcoholic friends to our beach house and mooch booze and free restaurant meals (my mom was a saint).
Mom passed away and i lost touch with my aunt,not a call...not an email,oh well when life gets tough you see who your real family/friends are.

It's a great and selfless thing you are doing but you are going to have to find a way to have some time to yourself to keep hold of your sanity. I live about 650 miles from where I grew up and when my father started going downhill it was my sister that took care of him. She couldn't afford to quit work but spent as much time there with him as she could and did cleaning and meal prep and stuff for him. Sometimes did his grocery shopping so he didn't have to pay to have them delivered. I thank god that my sister was there to help him or he would have ended up in a home. In the end he did go to a home but only for a short time before he passed. I'm glad he was able to stay at his home as long as he did. I flew home a couple times there toward the end and helped move stuff out of his house and visited with him but it was my sister that did the most and I'll always hold her in high regards for her care giving.

Good to hear you had your sister to take care of your pops.
Family situations like this are always tough to go thru and always leave a mark.

In other news and to lighten up the mood a bit i just saw this:

Now at first glance maybe they just look like a crummy Casio watch from the 70's but they actually the same watch that Ripley wore in the first Alien movie.

Casio Is Re-issuing the same model next month,price listed i think will be around 90 bucks.
Always been a fan of Casio and i gotta say i am really liking these,specially the one on the left...looks groovy!!

 

[NolaMel]

Thanks for the kind words buddy.

Yeh,sorry you had to go thru all that by yourself.
Back when my mom went thru colon cancer i had a ton of people to help me,still we fought for 2 years until well you know ''it'' happened.

Now with my pops its different because its just me,hopefully social services will give me hand and maybe in September i can take some time off.

Still they keep on pushing me to put my pops in a home which i always reply with a HELL NO!!,i will do what i can do until i cannot do it by myself anymore,then and only then i will ''think'' about it.

Now that i think about it i may have a good solution for a weekend off,this married couple i met like 2 years ago needed some help with buying their first apartment.

They are spanish but they were a bit overwhelmed by the signing of the deeds and the mortgate of the house they were buying so i gave them a hand with that.
After all was done they offered to pay but they were already in the red after the notary expenses and what not and they still had to buy some furniture for the house so i just told them to buy me dinner and we would be even.

Nice ladies in their 40's,one was an artist she did beautiful landscapes and portraits and the other one i just remembered was a manager of a Spa that is like 150 km. from where i live.

Might give them a ring and ask to meet up,tell them my situation and maybe just maybe i can get a nice discount for the weekend,now that would be ideal.
Nice natural thermal waters from a spring,sauna and some relaxation is what would make most of my stress just go away.

Good thing i remembered,this might pan out and end up being the weekend off i need

You need that weekend to recharge. When we passed my dad at home, it was the most emotionally and physically draining six months, but especially the last couple of months when he needed round the clock care. I will never regret doing it, but in hindsight I wish I had taken some breathers to recharge myself so I could do my best. Time evaporates and days seem to melt together, you get emotionally numb and running on air like a robot. If you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t be able to take care of him.

 

[AngeNZ]

Morning shinies

Hiya fellow Vaperinos

Had a couple of minutes from doing the usual ''taking care of pops'' thing so i thought i pop in and say hi.

On the shiny front not much to say,waiting for my Limited Edition Coolfire Z80 & Zenith II to arrive,i do hope i get the Spanish version.
Or in its default the French version and hope that @charlie1465 gets the Spanish version so we can trade

Vaping wise i just keep on using my Juggy Mini clone,hopefully in September i will start getting translating gigs again so maybe i can afford to get a real one.
Still struggling with the different flavors of aromas,got 2 i ''enjoy''....barely to be honest,so when i can afford it i try out some new aromas but so far it has been meh with a side order of meh with meh for dessert.

On the personal side of things this summer is killing me,the heat is just exhausting and day after day its the same thing...days just blend in together and it is the same thing with no changes or nothing to look up to.

I guess all caregivers go thru phases like this but i am finding it hard to get thru the day...

I come into ECF,i like/love/winner some posts,maybe a scarce comment here and there but to be honest i just don't have it in me to post more.

I seriously need some downtime,at least a day or two.
I talked with the Psychiatrist over at social services and asked her if they had any volunteers to cover me for like a couple of days,she said maybe in september.

If i do get someone to stay over for a couple of days with my pops i am taking a small roadtrip,plenty of countryside close to where i live so i would be taking the car and camping somewhere.
Don't have any gear but i know someone who might lend me just a tent and a sleeping bag,that is all i need to be honest.

But yeah this situation i am in is slowly eroding my mental state...not much i can do about that anyway,it's the cards i have been dealt so i just try to get thru each day while trying to remain in a sane state.

Well anyway big hug to all my friends here in ECF,love you guys and i hope you all keeping healthy and being safe

You've had amazing advice already, so all I want to say is: you are allowed to be selfish now and again. Especially with regards to having time off, and time to yourself. Don't wait until you're really struggling - ask for some social services help now. Even a half day off once a week would give you something to look forward to. But regardless, you are doing an amazing job

When you say one or two aromas, you're meaning diy flavours? If so, let us know what you like - as there's plenty of mixers in this thread.

Thanks @AngeNZ , @hittman , @NolaMel and @Fredman1 for the advice.

Ange - probably a replaceable 18650 but not 100 percent necessary. Would be for driving and working. Smaller is better and I don't mind drop-in coils for this kind of thing. Tank size could be anything 3ml and upwards.
I'm leaning towards the Jackaroo pod mod and the Aeglis P1 so far but not fixed on those.

Since I've now got and love GTX coils, I'm also eyeing up the Swag PX80 - have a peep at that? Because I really need another podmod

 

[Daniel Forsyth]

Good Morning Shiny People

 

[hittman]

Morning shinies


You've had amazing advice already, so all I want to say is: you are allowed to be selfish now and again. Especially with regards to having time off, and time to yourself. Don't wait until you're really struggling - ask for some social services help now. Even a half day off once a week would give you something to look forward to. But regardless, you are doing an amazing job

When you say one or two aromas, you're meaning diy flavours? If so, let us know what you like - as there's plenty of mixers in this thread.


Since I've now got and love GTX coils, I'm also eyeing up the Swag PX80 - have a peep at that? Because I really need another podmod

The swag is a nice unit. I have three of the px80 kits. However, the new Luxe 80 that I'm getting for review is a top fill which is nice since the px80 is bottom fill.

 

[Tralfaz]

Happy Friday, shinies! Hope everyone is safe and well <3 I've been slowly working my way through some old favorites this week.

Tonight, I'm enjoying an all time favorite Friday French Toast in one of my all time favorite RDAs on one of my all time favorite (and quite battle worn ) RCM mechs. Might be time to send this one off to Palmer's Powders for a refinish. Should I stick with matte black or try something creative? I do enjoy the patina as well. Such a tough decision

 

[Pigs]

Might be time to send this one off to Palmer's Powders for a refinish. Should I stick with matte black or try something creative? I do enjoy the patina as well. Such a tough decision

Go a creative colour scheme!

 

[AngeNZ]

The swag is a nice unit. I have three of the px80 kits. However, the new Luxe 80 that I'm getting for review is a top fill which is nice since the px80 is bottom fill.

I'm surprised that Vaporesso haven't gone in the Aegis/Jackaroo podmod direction yet instead. I thought after the Forz came out, they would.

I like how the swag px80 is sunken, so it's a low profile.

 

[Pigs]

That must have been an oh my god moment!!

Well put - it really was! Thought I'd somehow fried the board.

 

[hittman]

I'm surprised that Vaporesso haven't gone in the Aegis/Jackaroo podmod direction yet instead. I thought after the Forz came out, they would.

I like how the swag px80 is sunken, so it's a low profile.

They did have the Xiron. I really liked it and have a couple somewhere. I got the two luxe 80 kits and the Marvos 60 today for review.

 

[AngeNZ]

Happy Friday, shinies! Hope everyone is safe and well <3 I've been slowly working my way through some old favorites this week.

Tonight, I'm enjoying an all time favorite Friday French Toast in one of my all time favorite RDAs on one of my all time favorite (and quite battle worn ) RCM mechs. Might be time to send this one off to Palmer's Powders for a refinish. Should I stick with matte black or try something creative? I do enjoy the patina as well. Such a tough decision

I remember when that SHRTGN was shiny new
I won't suggest pink. Or purple.
Definitely something creative though

 

[Tralfaz]

I'm gonna give it a good think.