So... is he a smoker, or does he just hate his daughter? Maybe both?
I would "risk" seeing the tantrum, again, and again, and again, but I like to live on the edge, like when my MIL came and called brazil nuts (another name) well she also always BOASTS about her son's Native American heritage and she was boasting about it enough that MY son like, asked, "What is our cultural heritage, Mom?" Without a beat I answered, "Well honey it's all sorts of things but because your mom was convict Aussie, well, we have a little Aborigine in us." Just all matter of fact, like.
My MIL is pretty white ALL the time, she went SUPER white at that moment. LOL. It was 100% false, and I was like, "Oh man, the MILs are getting together tomorrow, so I pretty much then had to call my mom, and tell her if it came up, that well, she could either endorse my lie, or tell MIL that her daughter, as usual was a lying brat. I was like, "You make the choice!"
My mon was like, "Okay honey, I sort of have a feeling the topic won't come up."
I chose to let my son believe it for a few years, mainly because, like, I thought it might be good for him to think that, generally for a while (WHY ELSE WOULD IT HAVE HAPPENED?) than his mom being a bratty mean person (which I'm QUITE SURE he already knew). But yeah, he took it rather well, other than pointing out you don't fight hate with hate.
I was like, "Maybe YOU don't kid, but that's because I RAISED YOU RIGHT. Also, you aren't going to understand until you have a MIL."
LOL.
So like, if it were me, I'd be calmly vaping the whole time, and then point out that intense anger is bad for a person, like and suggest some anger management strategies, but I do understand if you like this chick perhaps not wanting to become Persona Non Gratas, at least until the dude, like gives you permission to ask for his daughter's hand in marriage, and he'll probably say something like, "Only if you make her start smoking again."
I say just lie at that point.
Anna