If he wants to start vaping he may need the mind set to do it. It's kind of like quitting cold turkey you had to have the mind set to begin with in order for it to last. My cold turkey experiments lasted me only 2-3 weeks before relapse. Another analogy is that you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
Vaping vs Smoking - An Experiment
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Oh yes, I'm well aware of it...but when I quit by vaping the first time, it happened by accident in 24 hours. One day I was smoking a pack a day, the next I wasn't--and I didn't want or intend to quit. Lasted a month that time with no urges or problems. I did at the beginning try to get him to try it but he has been resistant the whole time so I don't even really mention it anymore.
It's just that the stars sort of aligned, and he does say he needs to quit, so I thought this might be a good time to try it.
He might start smoking again when he has the cash. But it will get him thinking after a few days of vaping he can taste food better and don't stink like cigs, he might stop smoking and start vaping in the near future.
Honestly, as much as i can not agree with a person smoking, and being a super heavy ex chain smoker.. I can not agree with this. You cant force him to change unless its interfering with his health and your married, and even then it has to be "just right". What your doing seems to me would just make him hate vaping, or turn his back against it. You could of made a deal with him or anything, but leave it up to him.. i mean, if he already has $3, you could give your SO a few bucks so that he doesn't despise vaping and that its still an option for him. Sorry but thats my 2Cents. as a person who was highly addicted to smoking.. and i mean highly (30+ smokes a day unfilterd hand rolled super tobacco..) What your doing, is actually closer to torture. I dont mean to hate bomb or anything but.. thats my honest opinion. Hes your SO, not your pet, nor husband... il shut up now, sorry if i caused offense.
A bit harsher than I would say it but...
A person will never quit smoking until they are ready to quit and to some extent CHOOSE to take a positive step towards quitting.
Even the accidental quitters CHOSE to take a positive step by choosing to vape. That they ended up quitting is accidental for some but they took that first step on their own.
I smoked for over 30 years. I tried to quit more times than I can remember to count. Vaping worked for me. BUT 2 things came together. My desire to quit/choice to quit coincided with my finding a method that worked in vaping. If I had not made the choice myself to try and instead had someone else forcing me to try my brain would have craved cigs forever in my obstinate don't tell me what to do way.
Actually, neither of us have any money...torture? Please. I'm not really doing anything except being passive and OFFERING something else until he can buy smokes.
He's an adult and can take care of himself why do I need to supply his habit? I never bought his cigarettes when I smoked, so I don't see why I should now...
And to some points...we have been together for over 20 years so I know whether I am creating a serious issue doing this or not. A little discomfort for a day or two is NOT the worst thing in the world, and I'm not going to leave him or cause a scene if he starts smoking again.
My only point here is that an opportunity presented itself for him to quit...there is enough change around the house that he could scrounge if he was so desperate...he has choices.
I really don't feel like I'm forcing him to do anything. Or not, as the case may be.
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Forcing him or not if HE has not decided to quit the odds of success are not good.
prepare an IV of e-juice and stick in it his arm while sleeps...if he still wants to smoke after that....move onto freebasing! all the kids are doing it so it must be cool.
also..he still only has $3? he need a better job!!
also..he still only has $3? he need a better job!!
I can see Alisa's point in this. They don't have the funds for cigs and she is offering him a way to get his nic. If he even comes away with an inkling that vaping may work....
I can see the other side too. It won't work unless he is ready or his mind is open to it.
I'm fairly certain that she is not telling her SO the same things she is saying here. She is taking an opportunity that has presented itself and letting the chips fall where they may. If he goes back to smoking, when he has dug up enough change out of the sofa, at least she tried.
I can see the other side too. It won't work unless he is ready or his mind is open to it.
I'm fairly certain that she is not telling her SO the same things she is saying here
. She is taking an opportunity that has presented itself and letting the chips fall where they may. If he goes back to smoking, when he has dug up enough change out of the sofa, at least she tried.
Perhaps...I didn't do this as any sort of plan, it just sort of presented itself. We'll see what happens.
i can see alisa's point in this. They don't have the funds for cigs and she is offering him a way to get his nic. If he even comes away with an inkling that vaping may work....
I can see the other side too. It won't work unless he is ready or his mind is open to it.
I'm fairly certain that she is not telling her so the same things she is saying here
thank you.
yeah me too! and who cares if i cry before going to bed each night! they're tears of joy?
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