Personally, I'd be making copies of this; http://publichealth.drexel.edu/~/media/Files/publichealth/ms08.pdf and leaving them in places like the fridge, microwave, under her pillow... Then I'd have a safe installed. 
What my crazy (analog smoker) wife did yesterday.......
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Oh boy! Am I ever glad that I am divorced and living my own life.
No commitment, no compromise, no BS - ever.
That just stinks! She is way out of line.
To me, such an action - full of disrespect for you and full of contempt and destructive action - would have been one more nail in the coffin of my marriage. A big nail.
Maybe this is not my place to say so ... but if your wife does something like that, with total disrespect for you, your interests and your health, then something is very wrong with your marriage indeed. And has been wrong for a long time. Such actions do not happen out of thin air.
OMG am I glad that I am divorced and no longer have to bother with the childish moods and tantrums of some silly person!
Oh, and if she does not like your sharing her childish, silly, stupid actions... well, why did she commit such actions in the first place?
No commitment, no compromise, no BS - ever.
That just stinks! She is way out of line.
To me, such an action - full of disrespect for you and full of contempt and destructive action - would have been one more nail in the coffin of my marriage. A big nail.
Maybe this is not my place to say so ... but if your wife does something like that, with total disrespect for you, your interests and your health, then something is very wrong with your marriage indeed. And has been wrong for a long time. Such actions do not happen out of thin air.
OMG am I glad that I am divorced and no longer have to bother with the childish moods and tantrums of some silly person!
Oh, and if she does not like your sharing her childish, silly, stupid actions... well, why did she commit such actions in the first place?
Easy fix....move out. Tell her you don't appreciate all her second hand smoke, it is unhealthy for you.
Heh.
Seems like that worked out well for the both of you. You speak the truth, sister.
lol Funny stuff! Hopefully you knew she was crazy before you married her. I don't mind cray cray as it helps keep life interesting, as long as I can afford it. One of my favorite episodes of "It's always Sunny" is when Charlies role in the gang was to play "Wild-Card"...lol. Anyways, hope you get it sorted out and it only happens the once.
That was the first time she'd ever done anything underhanded like this.....and it caught me totally by surprise, I was stunned that she'd do something like that. I won't ever do anything to "get back" because I'm smart enough to know that's the road to hell, and I've been there, and done that. I think she didn't smoke at all for the first couple days, but she's back to smoking now.
She told me a couple days ago that she's "done." So ok, agreed, I sent her a note yesterday that I'd found a couple of houses i wanted to look at, and found a lawyer, and wanted to get divorced asap, and asked her if she knows a better lawyer, and if she was planning on putting up any kind of a fight, and told her what was on my mind about dividing everything...and I can only hope you understand that I will be giving up a tremendous amout of what I've done with my life by walking away with nothing more than my own vehicles and a few household items, and leaving all the rest for her, and I've already spent most of my life savings on her and hers, but I don't really care about all that very much, because all that crap is just more stuff I'd have to "maintain" and I would rather travel light, and I can't take any of that .... with me when I die, so it doesn't matter to me. But I haven't gotten any kind of response for about 24 hours, and I have no idea what's on her mind right now, so now I'm waiting to hear from her. Thanks for your support, all! Have a nice day!
I also told her I wanted my other e-cig back if she still has it, but no response, but my vape mail should be here today, and I plan to get it from the mailbox before I head off to work!
She told me a couple days ago that she's "done." So ok, agreed, I sent her a note yesterday that I'd found a couple of houses i wanted to look at, and found a lawyer, and wanted to get divorced asap, and asked her if she knows a better lawyer, and if she was planning on putting up any kind of a fight, and told her what was on my mind about dividing everything...and I can only hope you understand that I will be giving up a tremendous amout of what I've done with my life by walking away with nothing more than my own vehicles and a few household items, and leaving all the rest for her, and I've already spent most of my life savings on her and hers, but I don't really care about all that very much, because all that crap is just more stuff I'd have to "maintain" and I would rather travel light, and I can't take any of that .... with me when I die, so it doesn't matter to me. But I haven't gotten any kind of response for about 24 hours, and I have no idea what's on her mind right now, so now I'm waiting to hear from her. Thanks for your support, all! Have a nice day!
I also told her I wanted my other e-cig back if she still has it, but no response, but my vape mail should be here today, and I plan to get it from the mailbox before I head off to work!
I hope you can get her to talk about what's REALLY bugging her and the two of you can work it out. It's not good that she's this unhappy and, of course, it's WAY unfair to you the way she's reacting to it...although she's probably not proud of herself, either.
Look out for yourself and just stay calm throughout. You owe it to yourself to stand up for yourself. It's so hard dealing with stuff this deep, I know.
I hope it ends up being easier for you sooner rather than later and with as little heartbreak as possible.
Look out for yourself and just stay calm throughout. You owe it to yourself to stand up for yourself. It's so hard dealing with stuff this deep, I know.
I hope it ends up being easier for you sooner rather than later and with as little heartbreak as possible.
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I'm confused.
You say that you won't do anything to "get back" at her...but then you write her a note telling her that you have a lawyer and want a divorce asap?
Am I reading that right?
My Wifey Complains about the..........
10 bottles of juice and 8 tube mods on the kitchen counter.
She tried the whole i'm going to hide his stuff.
Came out of the office with a Provari......
10 bottles of juice and 8 tube mods on the kitchen counter.
She tried the whole i'm going to hide his stuff.
Came out of the office with a Provari......
He's had some time to process the whole situation and I'm sure there's more to the equation that he doesn't feel the need to share here.I'm confused.
You say that you won't do anything to "get back" at her...but then you write her a note telling her that you have a lawyer and want a divorce asap?
Am I reading that right?
I'm confused.
You say that you won't do anything to "get back" at her...but then you write her a note telling her that you have a lawyer and want a divorce asap?
Am I reading that right?
This ^
plus you missed this part baghandler:
Not really my place, but it does sound as if this was about something much more than just his vaping.
When you marry the right person, this is not an issue.why do married or even engaged people think it makes them the other persons mommy or daddy or boss???
I don't think I could live with someone who didn't respect my things, my privacy or my right to be an individual!
I've been married 15 years to the right person.
But it took 8 years of dating to make sure it was the right thing for me to do.
Trying to change someone is a recipe for pure unhappiness.
Sorry to hear about your relationship ending .... my ex and I broke up finally over something very similar. She actually took a few expensive ham radio's and locked them up in her locker at work. Would not return them .. all b/c I gave away and old rusted bike frame that had been sitting in the yard for over two years. Anyways, my point is, you know it's really not about the e cigs - This incident pushed over the top whatever has been boiling for a while.
I wish you the best of luck my friend should you go through with this. There are good and bad points to splitting up ... the bad stuff will slowly evaporate ... the good stuff keeps getting better !
I wish you the best of luck my friend should you go through with this. There are good and bad points to splitting up ... the bad stuff will slowly evaporate ... the good stuff keeps getting better !
The world is chock full of unreasonable people...
I really wish I knew why so many people are so insane.
But I guess it's not my mission to figure this out.
Maybe Big Pharma can come up with a pill to solve these issues.
Or maybe people should just be good to each other and let each other live and let live.
It really isn't that hard.
I really wish I knew why so many people are so insane.
But I guess it's not my mission to figure this out.
Maybe Big Pharma can come up with a pill to solve these issues.
Or maybe people should just be good to each other and let each other live and let live.
It really isn't that hard.
Even reasonable people can go through unreasonable periods. There's no guarantee that any of us will always be level-headed and rational at all times.
Hopefully you also spend money on your wife, but just forgot to mention it.There are two things that would be grounds for divorce when it comes to me. One, if my wife ever did anything with my video games/pc. or if my wife ever thought about messing with my vaping stuff. I know that sounds cruel but I dont spend my hard earned money (and that's the two things that I ever spend money on) just to get thrown away or destroyed. But for real that sucks man
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