I have to say, I really really hate any parent who runs to the regulators when their kid does something bad, nay even illegal. The only running that should be done should be, "My kid has done something ILLEGAL, CHARGE IT with a crime. Make me take parenting classes, whatever.
I never once DEFENDED my kiddo's anti social acts when caught by the authorities, I was not like, "Ban alcohol" when he got arrested I was like, "Okay so I get to go to "teen court" and some other juvenile stuff, then?" Then I punished the heck out of the kid, and let me tell you "Teen court" (for parents) is even less FUN than it sounds.
There are no safe spaces, or there shouldn't be especially for that type of stuff. Juvenile laws are there for a reason. Etc. Hate it.
And, to be QUITE frank, my son's brush with juvie once and adult (once) were what taught him the MOST. I could talk until I was blue in the face, but when you DRIVE on 16 hits of acid, you deserve EVERY last consequence you can get. I thought they were a bit EASY on him personally, but I did not contest things, although I did get him an actual lawyer (public defenders here are a bit harried) while stating, "First and last chance."
18 months probation no license for 2 years and endless fear about "will I be sent to jail for 30 days" taught him WAY more about why you don't break laws than *I* ever could.
I hate those parents, ruining it for the rest of us. They should just all have their children removed. Into residential facilities. And not because they can't control THE KID, but because they are teaching the "whiny entitlement mentality." Not being able to control your kid is NO SIN (at least with some teens, they're just like that) but the lesson should be, "Live by the sword, die by the sword) honestly. I mean.... It's just unfortunate.
Let your Bratty Teen Have their Logical Natural consequence, and if YOU can't enforce one, let the LAW do it, they LOVE arresting people, LIVE FOR IT EVEN.
Sorry for the rant. This is the death of our personal freedom though, parents like these.
Anna