Heather's Heavenly Vapes - THE BIG THREAD (Part 6)

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The last time I was in robin was heading to Michigan to find out about the surgery that should’ve helped.. tried catching back up to realize she is gone [emoji17]

I’m sorry for everyone’s loss as I know all of you were so very close to her. She was taken way too early, and I’ll miss seeing her in my few chances to catch up :( just have no words


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Well guys, I'm still in a Robin sulk. I wont lie about it. I can't come to grips with it and I'm just plain exhausted. I suspect it will be a long while.

I would imagine most of us are.

That is why I haven't been able to access them enough to add to your thread for her.

The end came so fast

then as soon as my mind quiets down, I drift into a thought, and I’m right back to just pure disbelief. I truly thought she was going to be ok


I'm having a really tough time.
I am sick. I am stunned. I think I am angry.
Just...everything.
I think I can say for all of us...it just hurts so damn much.



Here's Robin's obituary . Link courtesy of RJ
Mrs. Robin Marie (Boussneur) Lawthers, of Port St. Lucie Florida, born on October 21, 1960 in El Paso, Texas, to the late Jean Crozier and the late Peter Boussneur, passed away at age 57 on October 6, 2018 in Port St. Lucie, Florida. Robin graduated from Lakeview Community High School in 1978. Robin was the loving wife of Rick Lawthers. She is survived by her daughter, Dawn Hart; son, Howard Hart; stepson, Adam Lawthers; and stepdaughter, Erica Lawthers Smith. Donations in Robin's name to American Cancer Society are welcome and appreciated.
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I'm having a really tough time.
I am sick. I am stunned. I think I am angry.
Just...everything.
I think I can say for all of us...it just hurts so damn much.
This falls in the "Life is unfair" category to be sure. It would be one thing if Robin were 85 years old. But she still had a lot of life remaining. Our other lost friends here on HHV also left way too soon. I want to get to the day when I smile when I think of them and not be sad. I think that's what they would want us to do.


Suddenly, you were gone
From all the lives you left your mark upon

Tried to believe but you know it's no good
This is something that just can't be understood


---Neil Peart from Afterimage
 

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Always it is good to see you. I'm sorry you had to check in, and find out this devastating news. It has been very hard on all of us. I just go from shock, to disbelief, to sadness. The loss of Robin so quickly took us by surprise. I still remember her saying the doctors said they thought she had 3-6 months left. I just can't get past it, and I am having trouble accepting it. I keep telling myself at least she isn't in pain anymore. I haven't gotten to the anger stage yet. I read what people say, and try to let it soak in. Now that I've seen the obituary, it made it more real. I just can't post on that page either. I don't know if I will be ready to do it in the future either. She was so full of life and love. I wanted her to survive this! She had so much to live for. It seems cancer is rampant these days. It has taken many people I have loved. I am not angry with God about this. I do get mad at some of the things that cause cancer, and it doesn't have to be this way. I just cannot imagine what her family is going through. My prayers continue for that.
 

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Hello Army. Home from Ohio, slept from noon until 5pm. Just relaxing now. hooked up to my NTS or whatever this device is called. Seems to help after a couple of long days over the road.
relic. next time you contact RJ tell her it's OK to come back and say hello.
We've lost enough friends, how about hearing from a few old ones.
 

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I'm having a really tough time.
I am sick. I am stunned. I think I am angry.
Just...everything.
I think I can say for all of us...it just hurts so damn much.
Classy... one big old hug coming at you.

I’m right there with you. I think I keep posting things hoping someone will say, oops, sorry, this was all one big misunderstanding and Robin will pop on, and life can go back to normal.

I know for sure she had great taste in friends, so if you feel like it, my PM’s are open. She’d want us to help each other thru this.

Lots of love to you
 

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Hello Army. Home from Ohio, slept from noon until 5pm. Just relaxing now. hooked up to my NTS or whatever this device is called. Seems to help after a couple of long days over the road.
relic. next time you contact RJ tell her it's OK to come back and say hello.
We've lost enough friends, how about hearing from a few old ones.
I would love to see RJ come back. She was hilarious without trying to be. I often think about reaching out to her. But then I remind myself why she had to leave and I understand why she wouldnt. She would know what is best for her and I wouldnt want to pressure her. But boy do I agree with you. It sure would be nice to have RJ around again.
 

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Classy... one big old hug coming at you.

I’m right there with you. I think I keep posting things hoping someone will say, oops, sorry, this was all one big misunderstanding and Robin will pop on, and life can go back to normal.

I know for sure she had great taste in friends, so if you feel like it, my PM’s are open. She’d want us to help each other thru this.

Lots of love to you

I’m crying again. Nothing to say except I love each of you so damn much. I’m thankful to know each of you - even in this limited way. I would do anything I could for you. I miss Robin. I hurt. I’m hugging each of you. And just praying for us all.


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I’m crying again. Nothing to say except I love each of you so damn much. I’m thankful to know each of you - even in this limited way. I would do anything I could for you. I miss Robin. I hurt. I’m hugging each of you. And just praying for us all.
We're going to get past this. And Robin will be the one to help us. I am convinced she would tell us to remember her fondly but to live our lives happily. Wouldnt we do the same?

But clearly this will not happen soon. None of us are near ready for that. So we do the next best thing and simply go through the motions until we are ready. Robin would understand this too. So would Phil, Frank, Bobby, and Chris. I'm convinced.
 

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One night a man had a Dream. He dreamed that he was walking along a beach with the Lord.
Across the sky flashed scenes from his life.For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand; one belonging to him and the other belonging to the Lord.

When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of this life there were only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened in the very lowest and saddest times in his life.

This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it. "Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that in the most troublesome times in my life, there are only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed you most you would leave me."

The Lord replied, "My precious, precious child, I love you and would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you".

We will make it through all of this, and we will be better off remembering the way Robin lived rather than her leaving us. Trust me, this, in Time, will happen.
 

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One night a man had a Dream. He dreamed that he was walking along a beach with the Lord.
Across the sky flashed scenes from his life.For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand; one belonging to him and the other belonging to the Lord.

When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of this life there were only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened in the very lowest and saddest times in his life.

This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it. "Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that in the most troublesome times in my life, there are only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed you most you would leave me."

The Lord replied, "My precious, precious child, I love you and would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you".

We will make it through all of this, and we will be better off remembering the way Robin lived rather than her leaving us. Trust me, this, in Time, will happen.



Footprints in the sand has always been very special to me.
 

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    I would love to see RJ come back. She was hilarious without trying to be. I often think about reaching out to her. But then I remind myself why she had to leave and I understand why she wouldnt. She would know what is best for her and I wouldnt want to pressure her. But boy do I agree with you. It sure would be nice to have RJ around again.
    Hello Army. Home from Ohio, slept from noon until 5pm. Just relaxing now. hooked up to my NTS or whatever this device is called. Seems to help after a couple of long days over the road.
    relic. next time you contact RJ tell her it's OK to come back and say hello.
    We've lost enough friends, how about hearing from a few old ones.
    I told RJ that she still has friends here and that she's missed . She said she still reads the thread when she has time but she's been busy with her son starting college . She did tell me she's happy and doing well . I'll pass ya'lls sentiments on to her .
     

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    I told RJ that she still has friends here and that she's missed . She said she still reads the thread when she has time but she's been busy with her son starting college . She did tell me she's happy and doing well . I'll pass ya'lls sentiments on to her .
    Thanks, Bud.
     

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    I’m crying again. Nothing to say except I love each of you so damn much. I’m thankful to know each of you - even in this limited way. I would do anything I could for you. I miss Robin. I hurt. I’m hugging each of you. And just praying for us all.
    Right back at ya :)

    For some reason this post reminded me I have an aunt and uncle visiting Vegas this week and I totally forgot I was supposed to go up for a day to visit. If it works out, how far are you from the airport? Would love a real life hug. How’s your week look? I’m thinking the 16th. Just have to make sure they aren’t out visiting the dam that day.
     

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    I use the one with google maps when I feel the need to use one. Mostly I use maps to find the address then pick my own route. Get in less trouble that way...
    I do that too. Truthfully though, the area I live in is really screwed up bad. For starters, there is no such thing as a straight road around here. They meander left and right and up and down and you cant see very far because they are all tree lined. Then add to that there are few street signs. You dont know the name of the street youre on or cant find the street you need to turn on. Then this area is famous for changing the name of the street for no reason. You'll go ten miles down the street and it will change names three different times. Or you'll be on a road that has three different names at the same time. No roads adhere to a north south east or west grid. I mean, it's crazy. I've been here 20 years and still cant figure it out.
     

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    Right back at ya :)

    For some reason this post reminded me I have an aunt and uncle visiting Vegas this week and I totally forgot I was supposed to go up for a day to visit. If it works out, how far are you from the airport? Would love a real life hug. How’s your week look? I’m thinking the 16th. Just have to make sure they aren’t out visiting the dam that day.

    Everything in Vegas is close! I’m within about 15 minutes of the airport. Name the day & time and I’m there. Big hug at the ready.
     

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