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How old were you when you came "out"?

Discussion in 'Gay Group' started by TxTrouble, Feb 10, 2010.

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  1. Peeps

    Peeps Ultra Member Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Hang in there, hotwheelz! I never knew true love until I was 38 and now I can't remember life without her. It'll happen...
     
  2. Peeps

    Peeps Ultra Member Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Yep, but it's on them not on us. They don't know what they're missing :)
     
  3. Peeps

    Peeps Ultra Member Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Thanks for reading it, TWolf!! :)
     
  4. Peeps

    Peeps Ultra Member Verified Member ECF Veteran

    He knows, I'm confident of that :) He sounds like a wonderful man, stormi!
     
  5. lilith79

    lilith79 Ultra Member Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Jan 23, 2010
    MI
    I was a teenager, 17. My friends were cool with it...my mom was shocked silent. She figured it out only because I had a gf and was given a necklace from her with her name on it. I told her I was bi and she shut up for a few hours...I find it humorous.
     
  6. distorting a code

    distorting a code Full Member

    Jan 14, 2011
    California
    Well, I didnt realize I was gay but my best friend told me I was when I was 12.
    Slowly I accepted that. I never fully came out at school but I wasnt hiding it either...everyone now tells me they knew..

    When I went to highschool I kept to myself but still didnt hide that I was a lesbian. My mom asked me when I was 16 if I was gay and I denied it. I was afraid Id put her through a traumatic event and then fall in love with a guy, LOL.

    Well, I officially came out 2.5 years ago (22). My whole family knows, my in-laws all know. Everyone on my side of the family loves my partner and doesnt care that Im gay. My partner's parents...well thats another story. Even though the rest of her family is ok with us!
     
  7. alisab

    alisab Super Member Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Dec 15, 2010
    WI
    I came out at 13 - that's a long time ago!
     
  8. jbblack

    jbblack Senior Member ECF Veteran

    Mar 12, 2011
    Sherwood, AR
    I started coming out at 16, first to my little godsister (who later turned out to be a lesbian), but it really didn't start rolling until I hit 17 and graduated high school. Then I worked up the nerve to come out to my dad. He didn't take it like I'd anticipated; I'd worked up this whole speech about it and he said "Yeah, we know. Want a beer?" Mom on the other hand wasn't nearly as accepting (at first). Now, she understands that had things turned out differently, then I wouldn't be the same person that I turned out to be....which is someone that she's come to respect, admire, trust, and become a very close friend to.

    I decided at 22 that I wasn't going to play the selectively-out games anymore. I came fully out, and let the chips fall where they may. I've not regretted that move. Sure, I got snubbed by some folks and turned down for career moves, but I don't see those as losses, since neither friends nor careers are worth it to me if I have to live in fear of the repercussions for simply being myself.
     
  9. stillalive

    stillalive Super Member Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Apr 26, 2011
    USA
    It's so cool to read all of these stories. :D I'm 22 and just officially starting to come out. Like a lot of you, everyone else already knew, but it wasn't until I started getting physically close to girls the past couple of years that I figured it out. I tried dating a couple of guys, one of whom I loved like a brother and one of whom I still have a slight crush on, but even with the latter (who was the most perfect guy I could ever imagine-- even had a modded xbox 360!!!) there was still something missing. I knew when I kissed a girl for the first time (pretending to be a little drunker than I was at a party, hehe) that I liked it more than kissing guys, but I just thought I was bisexual. And then I got an actual girlfriend, and at the beginning of this year I started to feel the magic everyone talks about when I was with her. :D It was like being colorblind all your life and then suddenly seeing a rainbow in a colorful Hawai'ian forest.

    So far my aunt, oldest 2 brothers, and dad have been really supportive. I've been dropping massive hints to my mom, youngest brother, and grandma, but they haven't completely acknowledged it with me or anything. I'm trying to let them figure it out on their own, and I think it's working, but who knows?
     
  10. tybin

    tybin ECF Guru Verified Member ECF Veteran

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    Sep 17, 2010
    WA
    welcome stillalive:)
     
  11. trichman

    trichman Ultra Member ECF Veteran

    Jul 8, 2010
    USA
    I knew I was gay at age 5. Came out at 21 and most had already figured it out. I was married for a minute and have a daughter who I am very close to. There was a lot of pressure to be straight as I lived in the bible belt. I left and moved to Hollywood at 23. Ended up with my partner who was from the same hometown as me that I met in college back home. We survived the aids crisis and lost over 30 friends during those dark days. We just celebrated our 35th anniversary. Ironically we now live in the same area we came from.
     
  12. McVapor

    McVapor Super Member Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Nov 6, 2009
    Seminole FL
    Out? I'm bi and still in. heh. I must say it does make it hard to find someone when your stuck in this darn wardrobe.

    Hey how do I join this group?
     
  13. ScottinSoCal

    ScottinSoCal Ultra Member ECF Veteran

    Dec 19, 2010
    ProVari Nirvana
    Heh - bisexuals, the invisible group. Gay and straight alike think you're gay and just won't admit it. Stand and be counted.

    You just did. ;)
     
  14. McVapor

    McVapor Super Member Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Nov 6, 2009
    Seminole FL
    Good stuff

    I'm bi only because I don't want to give up being straight. But these are just labels anyways, people are too quick to label everything IMO.
     
  15. tybin

    tybin ECF Guru Verified Member ECF Veteran

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    Sep 17, 2010
    WA
    yup, there's a continuim:)
     
  16. bornagainst

    bornagainst Vaping Master Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Aug 22, 2009
    Toronto, Canada
    Hey again friends and loved ones!

    Glad to see some new faces here, and some awesome familiar old ones.

    *hugs*
     
  17. stillalive

    stillalive Super Member Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Apr 26, 2011
    USA
    I came out to my mom over the weekend... mentioned it casually in passing in an email... she still hasn't remarked on it, even though she replied to the rest of the email. Ah well....
     
  18. BiancaMontgomery

    BiancaMontgomery SQUIRREL! Verified Member ECF Veteran

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    Jan 27, 2010
    North Carolina
    That's how they do. My Mom "knew" and still acted shocked when I told her LOL! Moms, gotta love em!
     
  19. tybin

    tybin ECF Guru Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Supporting member
    Sep 17, 2010
    WA
    i'm glad she's still talking to ya:laugh:
     
  20. McVapor

    McVapor Super Member Verified Member ECF Veteran

    Nov 6, 2009
    Seminole FL
    Similar to how my mom is. Although I didn't share the same religious beliefs as her and it's as if the argument we had never happened and she still thinks I have her beliefs. I know she knows -_-
     

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