Older Folks and Vaping Back Porch - Part Five

[misswish1]

I don't know what else to say... thank you for listening.

Ongoing hugs, prayers and strength are on the way, Kaz. It is a terribly hard road that you are both on. All you can really do is hold fast to each other, your faith & family & friends. We are always here for you.

 

[MattB101]

Don't know. Mikey won't post her address...

That particular pic doesn't really do much for me but the flexibility is intriguing.

 

[MattB101]

Stretching.

Pretty much. And I think it would be more like "where's she been half my life?"

 

[MattB101]

Well, I guess I should probably give you guys an update on the non-work stress that I'm dealing with right now. Thursday I'll be taking off work so that I can take my Bride in for CT and MRI scans, then Friday we will see the oncologist to discuss the aforementioned scans and get her twelfth chemo treatment of this second regimen. To be quite honest, things are not looking good. She is experiencing more pain than she was previously feeling. She is also a lot more tired and worn down than I've ever seen her. She is still trying to maintain an air of positive spirits, but I fear that she is realizing that she is nearing the end of what she can handle. This chemo regimen has been particularly hard on her; from the very first treatment, it has been brutal. I spoke with her best friend this morning, apparently my Bride told her that this may be her last chemo treatment. Not because the doctor will call it done, but because she feels that she cannot endure it any longer. She alluded to the feeling that she'd rather have a good year or so of feeling relatively normal (even if it shortened her life span) than to have two more years of feeling as she currently does. I cannot say that I blame her; I'd never blame her for feeling this way. But hearing this is a hard pill to swallow. Of course, I'll maintain a strong front for her benefit. It's all I know to do. But even still, my heart is heavy. I do not know what the scans will show; I do not know what decisions will be made. I know that I love my wife and I will support her in whatever she may choose. And I don't know what else to say... thank you for listening.

Prayers for both of you.

 

[MattB101]

Not with Schedule 2's its the law. 30 days is it, your doc can write extra scripts but some states won't fill them, Texas, NM calls the docs office to verify and thats it so no problem. I've heard Florida is pretty screwed up because they had pain clinics on every corner so they make everyone suffer.

True about scripts and Florida as well. People used to travel from places as far away as Kentucky, Arkansas and West Virginia to get loaded up on drugs to take back home and sell. Problem is it screwed people that actually need them. Even the locals can't get them now. If your from outta town forget it. I really don't understand how all the snowbirds can stay all winter. I'm sure some of them are on pain management. The pharmacist told me to get a local doctor last time she refused to fill my script. I told her I thought that was the cause of the problem in the first place. She didn't think that was funny but, it damn sure was true.

 

[Janet H]

Well, I guess I should probably give you guys an update on the non-work stress that I'm dealing with right now. Thursday I'll be taking off work so that I can take my Bride in for CT and MRI scans, then Friday we will see the oncologist to discuss the aforementioned scans and get her twelfth chemo treatment of this second regimen. To be quite honest, things are not looking good. She is experiencing more pain than she was previously feeling. She is also a lot more tired and worn down than I've ever seen her. She is still trying to maintain an air of positive spirits, but I fear that she is realizing that she is nearing the end of what she can handle. This chemo regimen has been particularly hard on her; from the very first treatment, it has been brutal. I spoke with her best friend this morning, apparently my Bride told her that this may be her last chemo treatment. Not because the doctor will call it done, but because she feels that she cannot endure it any longer. She alluded to the feeling that she'd rather have a good year or so of feeling relatively normal (even if it shortened her life span) than to have two more years of feeling as she currently does. I cannot say that I blame her; I'd never blame her for feeling this way. But hearing this is a hard pill to swallow. Of course, I'll maintain a strong front for her benefit. It's all I know to do. But even still, my heart is heavy. I do not know what the scans will show; I do not know what decisions will be made. I know that I love my wife and I will support her in whatever she may choose. And I don't know what else to say... thank you for listening.

{{{{{Kaezziel}}}}} My heart is so heavy for you both. This is so hard. You can only go with your Bride's wishes and support her as much as you can. Just be sure they are real, rational wishes and not coming from depression. She needs to understand all her options, but then when she makes a decision, love her enough to respect it and be supportive. It's the kindest, most loving thing you can do for her. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Nermal]

Coffee? You need coffee? Coming right up.

Stretching, heck! I want a close up of her toes. I can barely hold a pencil with my toes and she's handling a full coffee pot?

 

[oldbroad]

Meh... it was a weekend; it was long. Other than that, it was unfortunately rather stressful and I'm glad that it has passed.



That's what I want to know! @oldbroad hasn't said whether she likes us or not...



Awwwww... And I appreciate it, Debz!

ok...I didn't at all get the reference Who's "us"?

Are you twins?

Do you mean you? Yes i like you...any man who treats his bride as well as you do is topnotch in my book!

And, I'm glad that your stressful weekend has passed. You DO deserve kudos, as does Iffy.

 

[Flowersoul]

While we were in the Philippines my wife's nephew was helping me replace screens in the house - every five minutes or so - you would hear Ooops. After hearing it several times I told him he needed to take that word out of his dictionary. He looked at me quizzically and asked why.

He is a trauma nurse in an emergency surgical unit at one of the largest hospitals in the Philippines - I told him that last thing anyone in his care during surgery wants to hear is - Ooops...

Oh Phil, that is hilarious! What a humorous and clever thing to say.

Well, I guess I should probably give you guys an update on the non-work stress that I'm dealing with right now. Thursday I'll be taking off work so that I can take my Bride in for CT and MRI scans, then Friday we will see the oncologist to discuss the aforementioned scans and get her twelfth chemo treatment of this second regimen. To be quite honest, things are not looking good. She is experiencing more pain than she was previously feeling. She is also a lot more tired and worn down than I've ever seen her. She is still trying to maintain an air of positive spirits, but I fear that she is realizing that she is nearing the end of what she can handle. This chemo regimen has been particularly hard on her; from the very first treatment, it has been brutal. I spoke with her best friend this morning, apparently my Bride told her that this may be her last chemo treatment. Not because the doctor will call it done, but because she feels that she cannot endure it any longer. She alluded to the feeling that she'd rather have a good year or so of feeling relatively normal (even if it shortened her life span) than to have two more years of feeling as she currently does. I cannot say that I blame her; I'd never blame her for feeling this way. But hearing this is a hard pill to swallow. Of course, I'll maintain a strong front for her benefit. It's all I know to do. But even still, my heart is heavy. I do not know what the scans will show; I do not know what decisions will be made. I know that I love my wife and I will support her in whatever she may choose. And I don't know what else to say... thank you for listening.

Oh my, I so honor your dedication to your Bride and my sincere prayer and wish is that you may both be at peace with whatever decision is made.

That method has centuries of endorsement, by many, some of whom decide to abandon the logical mode option. Other options, though, remain popular: vodka, rum, whiskey, wine and beer to name a few.

This group is remarkable in its ability both to share and to be shared with. Just remarkable, and I think we're all the better for it.

Oh, and I GOT to ask: is Kaezziel your name in real life? If so, your parents get a prize, at least honorable mention, for "most unusual naming of a child".

Indeed!

 

[oldbroad]

Well, I guess I should probably give you guys an update on the non-work stress that I'm dealing with right now. Thursday I'll be taking off work so that I can take my Bride in for CT and MRI scans, then Friday we will see the oncologist to discuss the aforementioned scans and get her twelfth chemo treatment of this second regimen. To be quite honest, things are not looking good. She is experiencing more pain than she was previously feeling. She is also a lot more tired and worn down than I've ever seen her. She is still trying to maintain an air of positive spirits, but I fear that she is realizing that she is nearing the end of what she can handle. This chemo regimen has been particularly hard on her; from the very first treatment, it has been brutal. I spoke with her best friend this morning, apparently my Bride told her that this may be her last chemo treatment. Not because the doctor will call it done, but because she feels that she cannot endure it any longer. She alluded to the feeling that she'd rather have a good year or so of feeling relatively normal (even if it shortened her life span) than to have two more years of feeling as she currently does. I cannot say that I blame her; I'd never blame her for feeling this way. But hearing this is a hard pill to swallow. Of course, I'll maintain a strong front for her benefit. It's all I know to do. But even still, my heart is heavy. I do not know what the scans will show; I do not know what decisions will be made. I know that I love my wife and I will support her in whatever she may choose. And I don't know what else to say... thank you for listening.

Oh my , Kaezziel.... My heart is aching for the both of you. While I understand where she's coming from....I watched my Mom die of cancer years ago.... I also understand your pain. If it helps at all, keep sharing your pain and sorrow with us. And believe me when i say that you are a special husband

 

[DavidOck]

Well, I guess I should probably give you guys an update on the non-work stress that I'm dealing with right now.

Being there for and with her is the best you can do, Kaez. Helping her to be sure she information on has ALL the options available, and supporting her decision.

Thoughts and prayers for you both, that you reach whatever decision you deem best.

 

[Kenna]

Stretching, heck! I want a close up of her toes. I can barely hold a pencil with my toes and she's handling a full coffee pot?

She's an alien so she prolly doesn't have toes. I'm thinking magnets.

 

[oldbroad]

Thank you, Mike. There are a very few others that I've shared with on this level so far, but I'm feeling like I just need to get it all out there and off of my chest right now. I'm sure that there is more that I should share, but I feel like I still need to process it within myself a bit more for the time being.

Please just take your time, you need to process so much that's happening, within your own mind and heart. We'll be here for you, whatever you need/want from us.

 

[oldbroad]

So you're full of it right?

Even when his bladder is empty...he's full of it...
or is that the other end


ya know I'm kidding Mr. D.

 

[Debadoo]

So what are people supposed to do if they're traveling?

precisely! It's rough. I'm not on them anymore, but am in a lot more pain because of it.

then a '65 Plymouth Fury with more steel in the mammoth double ashtray than most whole cars have today. Shoot, the glove compartment door was a chunk of steel that had to have weighed 5 pounds.

My dad was an inspection foreman at Chrysler in Dayton many long times ago, so we always had Chryslers or Plymouths, fury, Fury III, cordoba, many others.

How stupid is that?! People in pain don't heal well. People in pain suffer from depression. People in pain are IN PAIN! Funny how that works. So, let's deny them any quality of life just so the people who are not in pain can once again pretend it's all for the children. I. Don't. Get. It. I'm sorry, Matt, that you have to deal with this.

JUP!!!

I do not know what the scans will show; I do not know what decisions will be made. I know that I love my wife and I will support her in whatever she may choose. And I don't know what else to say... thank you for listening.

((((((((Kaezz))))))))) I know how difficult this is. Went through the same with my dad. After one 3 wk series of radiation, he chose not to continue with anymore treatment. It's so horrible to watch those you love suffer, but at least they aren't jerked away suddenly, and you have time to say/do what you need to. Love, hugs and prayers to your and your bride!

Speaking (again) of names, I am proud to announce that my generation of males in the family uses their first names. Then again, none of us were boys named Sue.

Not sure if I posted this picture last week. If so you'll forgive me. I know that I posted a similar one with less peoples in it. This picture was at my Uncle David's funeral proceedings and my sister Jean took a pitcher of the pitcher with her iPhone. My paternal great-grandparents, grandparents, and 2nd through 6th youngest of the 11 kids. The youngest wasn't born yet.

The pouting youngest one in the picture is my Dad. Great grandpa Louis Napoleon Bellware came from Canada and fought for the Union Army at age 14, then stuck around for the fine Kentucky bourbon. Pic had to have been taken within a year of 1930 cuz Dad was born in 1926.View attachment 543194

what a wonderful photo! I love that you have so much history, photos, vids etc of your family!

 

[oldbroad]

I hope this song is taken in the spirit I meant it to....

 

[MattB101]

My dad was an inspection foreman at Chrysler in Dayton many long times ago, so we always had Chryslers or Plymouths, fury, Fury III, cordoba, many others.

A Cordoba! I can smell that rich Corinthian leather now.

 

[Debadoo]

Love that song Kay!

Matt, ours had velour seats. He mighta done that for me......I was always in shorts and tank top in the summer, and felt like I left a lotta skin on vinyl seats for sure when it was hot, but probably would happen on leather too

 

[MikeE3]

I go by my middle name: Daniel

Ok, I can pronounce that name ... so how do you pronounce you ECF name?

 

[Iffy]

Of course, I'll maintain a strong front for her benefit. It's all I know to do. But even still, my heart is heavy. I do not know what the scans will show; I do not know what decisions will be made. I know that I love my wife and I will support her in whatever she may choose. And I don't know what else to say... thank you for listening.

Kaez, neither do I! And thank you so much for sharing. Words may escape me, but not the flood of emotions...

Peace!!!