Older Folks and Vaping Back Porch - Part Three

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sushigirl

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Warning: If'n you're having a good day, skip this post. But I just felt like coming 'home' to my extended family and letting go. This had got to be one of the worst days of my life.

When I got home from church this morning looking forward to a day of DIY renovating the laundry area - I got the news that my best friend for 30 years succumbed to a sudden and unexpected heart attach yesterday. I'm devastated.

We met when our kids were about 5 years old and became friends straight away. Our kids grew up together and we shared lots of happiness and tragedies together. Ed was the kind of friend that would drop everything any time day or night to help me out. And likewise I was there for him. We laughed together during the good times and were there to lean on each other throughout he bad times. And for both of us there was enough of each to go around.

Ed and I could really talk to each other. Probably said things we've never mentioned to anyone else about our feelings and how we each dealt with them. Like the Vegas line - what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Well what we could say to each other went no further for some of the talking sessions.

He was troubled for a long time and his health was going down. Dang ... no matter how we tried we couldn't get him off cigarettes and try vaping, even with the kits we gave him. He had coughing spells when I thought I'd have to rush him to the emergency room. His first marriage ended badly when the kids were grown. His oldest son has struggled on and off since a teenager with hard drugs. He second marriage started off really nice and he seemed to be really happy for the 1st time in a long time. Then she turned nasty, filed for divorce and took him for just about everything, including his house.

He wound up living in the basement of his older son's house along w/ the women his son was hooked up with. She was decent and straight but not too bright. The one night the woman and Ed had to throw Eddie out of the house w/ his belongings because once again he started riding the horse.

I'm trying to look at what ever positive I can see right now. He was on vacation w/ his daughter and other son (who is pretty successful roofing contractor). The were in Bethany Beach and doing a lot of beach time w/ his grandkids who were the light of his life. And out on his sons fishing boating doing plenty of fishing. So I guess if your time comes ... what better time then when your at one of your happy places, doing the things you really enjoy, with those you love.

We that are left behind are grieving ... but I pray he is at rest and his worldly troubles are finally over. Peace and love to you my friend you shall be missed but never forgotten.

I gotta quick now .. because I gone on long enough .. and I can't stop crying.

Peach and Love to all my friends. Thanks for being here.

Thanks for sharing your heart with us, Mike. Glad you know that we are here for you, in good times and bad. {{{Hugs and prayers}}} for you my friend! May you find comfort and peace in His arms.
 

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Warning: If'n you're having a good day, skip this post. But I just felt like coming 'home' to my extended family and letting go. This had got to be one of the worst days of my life.

When I got home from church this morning looking forward to a day of DIY renovating the laundry area - I got the news that my best friend for 30 years succumbed to a sudden and unexpected heart attach yesterday. I'm devastated.

We met when our kids were about 5 years old and became friends straight away. Our kids grew up together and we shared lots of happiness and tragedies together. Ed was the kind of friend that would drop everything any time day or night to help me out. And likewise I was there for him. We laughed together during the good times and were there to lean on each other throughout he bad times. And for both of us there was enough of each to go around.

Ed and I could really talk to each other. Probably said things we've never mentioned to anyone else about our feelings and how we each dealt with them. Like the Vegas line - what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Well what we could say to each other went no further for some of the talking sessions.

He was troubled for a long time and his health was going down. Dang ... no matter how we tried we couldn't get him off cigarettes and try vaping, even with the kits we gave him. He had coughing spells when I thought I'd have to rush him to the emergency room. His first marriage ended badly when the kids were grown. His oldest son has struggled on and off since a teenager with hard drugs. He second marriage started off really nice and he seemed to be really happy for the 1st time in a long time. Then she turned nasty, filed for divorce and took him for just about everything, including his house.

He wound up living in the basement of his older son's house along w/ the women his son was hooked up with. She was decent and straight but not too bright. The one night the woman and Ed had to throw Eddie out of the house w/ his belongings because once again he started riding the horse.

I'm trying to look at what ever positive I can see right now. He was on vacation w/ his daughter and other son (who is pretty successful roofing contractor). The were in Bethany Beach and doing a lot of beach time w/ his grandkids who were the light of his life. And out on his sons fishing boating doing plenty of fishing. So I guess if your time comes ... what better time then when your at one of your happy places, doing the things you really enjoy, with those you love.

We that are left behind are grieving ... but I pray he is at rest and his worldly troubles are finally over. Peace and love to you my friend you shall be missed but never forgotten.

I gotta quick now .. because I gone on long enough .. and I can't stop crying.

Peach and Love to all my friends. Thanks for being here.
{{{{{Mike}}}}}
 

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Warning: If'n you're having a good day, skip this post. But I just felt like coming 'home' to my extended family and letting go. This had got to be one of the worst days of my life.

When I got home from church this morning looking forward to a day of DIY renovating the laundry area - I got the news that my best friend for 30 years succumbed to a sudden and unexpected heart attach yesterday. I'm devastated.
I am sooooo sorry Mike. Loosing a friend like that so suddenly, heck, just loosing a friend like that, is very hard on everyone. I am glad you told us, and my sincere condolences to you, yours and Ed's family. I don't know what else to say right now, but wishing you strength and healing. The pain never goes away and he will always be missed, but with time that pain will find a place where you can deal with it. For now, grieve, it's the best thing you can do.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}
 

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Dear Mike...my heart goes out to you. The devastating pain of losing someone you've known most of your life must be very hard.

But your friend, only in my own opinion, couldn't have had a better exit than being with the ones he loved at the time. Please grieve for your loss and his family ..but I feel he was one of the few fortunate ones that didn't have to go slowly and painfully downhill for a long time.You will remember him at his best as will his family.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Huge warm hugs for you!!}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
 

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I wish that everyone could have a friend like Ed. It didn't matter if you called him in the middle of the night, he'd be right over to help and we'd do the same for him. Because he was a contractor he has done a lot of work on our house. He's left his mark everywhere we look. Our kids don't remember a time that he was not around. How lucky we've been to have had him in our lives.

This morning I was going to call him to come to dinner tonight, but I got a phone call about him instead. So, tonight we ate the dinner I'd planned for him. He'll always be a part of our lives. I'll miss him terribly, and shed more than a few tears, but I'm happy to know that he went out the way he wanted and his troubles are gone.
 

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Oh, Mike, there's nothing I can say much beyond our other porchers... except:

That a heart as large, loving and kind as yours is going to ache hard and for a while! This is the biggest, and hopefully the only, major hurt that you and Ed have ever shared. Just think of the last time you and he shared that knowing grin that only dear friends can cherish eternally!

Peace, my friend, internal peace!
 
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Mike & Janet - so very sorry to read of your loss. The next while will be hard - but so glad that you have so many memories of good times with your friend. Prayers being sent for you and his family that you will have the strength to get thru this time of sadness.
 

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Roto, where do I sign up to be weight on a test flight? And can you talk the pilot into skim the waves?
Please take video of your next ride! Any semi-crazy jockies? Are these Civie or Mil craft?

Come on down to Grand Isle, Louisiana, and I'll see what I can do for you. These are civil aircraft, BUT, most of our pilots are former military. Let me get hold of the right pilot and I could probably get one to skim the waves. We just can't tell anybody. :D
 

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I'm trying to look at what ever positive I can see right now. He was on vacation w/ his daughter and other son (who is pretty successful roofing contractor). The were in Bethany Beach and doing a lot of beach time w/ his grandkids who were the light of his life. And out on his sons fishing boating doing plenty of fishing. So I guess if your time comes ... what better time then when your at one of your happy places, doing the things you really enjoy, with those you love.

As has been said, doing what he loved with family he loved. Doesn't help us much, of course.

Remember the good times, the hard times shared.
 

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Mike, it's difficult .. nothing can change it .. words can't take it away .. take some time, think back to the beginning, and write the story .. gather up any pics and put it all in a box .. press a flower from the funeral and add it to the box .. you'll perhaps find, as I did, that it can be a catharsis .. because now, the memories are the most important thing ..
 

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{{{{Mike & Janet}}}}

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Peach and Love to all my friends. Thanks for being here.

Because he was a contractor he has done a lot of work on our house. He's left his mark everywhere we look. Our kids don't remember a time that he was not around. How lucky we've been to have had him in our lives.

(((((((((((Mike and Janet))))))))))) I'm so sorry. Only with time can help ease the pain. Truly he was blessed to leave this world in such a glorious way. With his family, doing what he loved, and suddenly, with no prolonged suffering. I know you know how truly blessed y'all are to have had such a wonderful friend in your lives. Prayers for y'all and his family. Mourn for yourselves, but rejoice for him.
 

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Come on down to Grand Isle, Louisiana, and I'll see what I can do for you.

Ooh, ooh, can I get in line? All I ask is that we go out to feast on sum mud bugs (my dime) and I'll even sit in your lap if ya wish (might even purrrr, if ya insist)!
 

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Warning: If'n you're having a good day, skip this post. But I just felt like coming 'home' to my extended family and letting go. This had got to be one of the worst days of my life.

When I got home from church this morning looking forward to a day of DIY renovating the laundry area - I got the news that my best friend for 30 years succumbed to a sudden and unexpected heart attach yesterday. I'm devastated.

We met when our kids were about 5 years old and became friends straight away. Our kids grew up together and we shared lots of happiness and tragedies together. Ed was the kind of friend that would drop everything any time day or night to help me out. And likewise I was there for him. We laughed together during the good times and were there to lean on each other throughout he bad times. And for both of us there was enough of each to go around.

Ed and I could really talk to each other. Probably said things we've never mentioned to anyone else about our feelings and how we each dealt with them. Like the Vegas line - what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Well what we could say to each other went no further for some of the talking sessions.

He was troubled for a long time and his health was going down. Dang ... no matter how we tried we couldn't get him off cigarettes and try vaping, even with the kits we gave him. He had coughing spells when I thought I'd have to rush him to the emergency room. His first marriage ended badly when the kids were grown. His oldest son has struggled on and off since a teenager with hard drugs. He second marriage started off really nice and he seemed to be really happy for the 1st time in a long time. Then she turned nasty, filed for divorce and took him for just about everything, including his house.

He wound up living in the basement of his older son's house along w/ the women his son was hooked up with. She was decent and straight but not too bright. The one night the woman and Ed had to throw Eddie out of the house w/ his belongings because once again he started riding the horse.

I'm trying to look at what ever positive I can see right now. He was on vacation w/ his daughter and other son (who is pretty successful roofing contractor). The were in Bethany Beach and doing a lot of beach time w/ his grandkids who were the light of his life. And out on his sons fishing boating doing plenty of fishing. So I guess if your time comes ... what better time then when your at one of your happy places, doing the things you really enjoy, with those you love.

We that are left behind are grieving ... but I pray he is at rest and his worldly troubles are finally over. Peace and love to you my friend you shall be missed but never forgotten.

I gotta quick now .. because I gone on long enough .. and I can't stop crying.

Peach and Love to all my friends. Thanks for being here.
Oh wow, Mike and Janet, I will add you to my prayer list as well as your friends family. A loss is never easy to overcome and a true friend can never be replaced.
 

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Ooh, ooh, can I get in line? All I ask is that we go out to feast on sum mud bugs (my dime) and I'll even sit in your lap if ya wish (might even purrrr, if ya insist)!
I won't sit in your (roto's) lap or purr, but I want in on the hoppy clopter ride too!! And I'm always in for mud bugs!!
 
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