You may not be getting perceptible dry hits but you ARE overheating at the center of the coil if your wicks are separating in the middle. You're poisoning yourself with aldehydes as well, not kidding. Aldehydes are produced in vapor coming from coils exceeding 450°f and you are certainly exceeding that temp.
Your assertion that flavor is compromised using coils greater than 2.5mm is simply not true, it's more about matching the coil size to airflow, applied power level, coil saturation and atty chamber size.
As far as heat sure, if your putting 8 wraps on a 3.5mm coil it's going to be too hot. If that were my atty I would try a 3.5mm, 5 wrap clapton in there and thin the tails to match the juice channels. It will most certainly run cooler than your current 2.5mm 8 wrap build, produce better flavor imo and never singe your wicks in half.
I went through the whole "Smaller ID with More Wraps is Better" thing and found it to be unfounded. Larger ID shorter coils is where it's at for me. They hold just as much juice, stay wet in the center, ramp up and cool quicker and are easier to wick evenly. My