I saw my first "vaper in the wild" (aside from Crazy cat lady and she has now tried to "bum a cigarette" from me TWICE. I'm gonna punch her.) It was cold, the mountains had snow, and the sun clouds were rolling out pink from down below. He was a cloud chucker to the max and... It made me tingle a little inside (for the love of vaping, not the dude, except he was bearded that is SORT of a minus in my book although I did make the husband grow a goatee because he has this awful LIP scar) but yeah, vaping, vaping. I a mourning, a bit I'm prepped but mourning.
I had a mean, mean mommy today, and that is my particular brand of "anonymity." I weigh about 98 lbs soaking wet, I look like a cheery little lady with (mostly) white hair, and I just love (I ain't got no accent, I come from Germany, Australia, England and etc., but I do make fun of my PA husband for saying "boughten" it's this weird Germanic PA dialect, LOL). So instead.... I like to be SUPER sympathetic to everyone until they let down their guard and like, OUT comes the social work scalpel... When least expected.. LOL.
I was ALL sympathetic to mean mommy, until she started bad mothing the dad in front of the kid, and I very sternly said, "I'm sorry, in this office and in my presence, we do not bad mouth any parent in front of the kid unless said parent IS PRESENT."
So there was like, some justification.... And I just REPEATED IT. Oh, mean mommies hate that so much, especially the "we" version of the statement because it makes them feel like I HAVE DA AUTHORITAH, which I do.
I'll admit I already hated her because she was the suck, and worked for CPS and in my opinion if you do that, long term anyone, something really bad happens to you. All that unchecked power. I am afraid (her kid is currently eating self to death due to the divorce) that I also said, "You know, I've heard it said that children are our mirrors, and if you look at what you are saying about yours, well it needs a good polish, so I suggest therapy for yourself until you are an able enough parent to make your MINOR albeit LARGE child go. Then, he won't need to and you will both be happier."
To much scalpel for one 15 minute session though, she got up and left, my first walkout this job. I am going to have to temper my understanding angel morph into evil witch.
Of course, it worked out and the dad is gonna bring the kid in and together we will aid that child in not eating himself to death. Possibly. That's the thing about acrimonious divorces, you never know what will happen. But, daddy DID get the kid to go to therapy, so that's a plus in my book, plus also calling to say, "Did my kid actually finish the session? Because he needs help, seriously." LOL.
Hopefully this will be all okay, but yeah, I gotta remember it's shorter so it's a harder "transition" as it were. I just wanted to punch that lady almost immediately. I feel like I held back. And I did, if only because anything else I wanted to say would have gotten me fired, immediately
It happens, you hate your clients and you say, internally over and over, "I love this job, I don't want to call her that word, most of my clients are great no you may not say censored censored censored infinity."
Hard work, I'm telling you.
I never bad mouthed MY ex EVER to my kid, and at one point my ex had my kid terrorized into believing the child telling me about his relapse would lead to my ex putting out a hit on me, and my husband. I bad mouthed my ex PLENTY then... but not in front of the kid. I was understanding, and told him people say things that they can't carry out, then got an AWESOME therapist for each of us, and then the kid wanted a parental severance and I got child support and ZERO CONTACT and it was the BEST. It pays not to bad mouth the ex. I'm telling you.
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