I wouldn't vape around kids, I think it's poor modeling. Frankly that's what nic salt pouches (or even Swedish snus) is for. I just won't. I also won't be able to vape at the JAIL either. LOL.
I accept my options as they arise. Hehe, I was always pleased to never hit my kiddo. For one, my mom was very violent in my youth and I didn't much care for it. LOL. Also, I figured CREATIVE punishments were MUCH more punitive, entertaining, etc. I DID (at the recommendation of my therapist) do a couple "Safety holds" on him, because he was a bit too big for his BRITCHES. LOL. The first time (my therapist warned me) it took two hours of intermittent fits of rage, weeping, bargaining etc., but I had used the restroom and had food and beverages handy. You DO have to instill physical mastery over your kid, from a youngish age. I just preferred that to a spanking although I am the rare therapist who thinks a spanking here and there is fine, as part of a regular, consistent discipline system.
OH there was the time in 2nd grade RAN from me because he was afraid of punishment and I was like NO WAY and sped after him and got him to the ground and under my control. It was right in front of the school janitor. LOL he gave me a look of admiration or horror, I'm not quite sure.
Those kiddos were SEVERELY traumatized, they needed something motivational. I'm a true behaviorist, and shaping and consistent reinforcement worked best. I just considered them a pack of wolves needing my AID, LOL. You can't hit a kiddo like that. Etc. Not to mention OMG my LICENSE.
Holy goodness, we are in FULL monsoon right now. I'm building my first mech with the kid, he enjoys that stuff and I'm all extra tremor for a multitude of reasons. If this keeps up though I may not be able to GO.
LOL the husband went to a meeting and wound up assisting some homeless dude who is an intermittent guest but had slept in a WASH. He passed out, probably, and lost everything, including his meds. The husband took him to the crisis center he's all sweet like that .LOL
Anna