So someone who is, say, starving, in an abusive relationship, working at a degrading job with a terrible boss, and has--oh, I don't know--postherpetic neuralgia and chronic migraines just doesn't have the right attitude if he or she doesn't love his/her life?
Pshaw.
Well, I for one do not love my life. I’m very much in charge, and when the train goes off the rails, I get it back on. Too much beyond my control though.
I’ll take the lumps for what I screwed up, just as quickly as I take the praise for what I’ve done right, but I did not ask to be widowed.
And I’m not directing this at you, SMT, but I’m sure you’ve had the same experience - people do not understand how hard it is. And they have unrealistic expectations.
I made the mistake of complaining about feeling stuck to my sister. And there was no mistaking the cattitude in her voice when she said, “Well, WE made a plan, and WE stuck to it. That’s why WE are satisfied with life!”
And there was no mistaking the disgust in my voice when I replied, “We made a plan, too. But we didn’t PLAN on him dying!”
They don’t get it. They think it’s all business as usual, but you’re sad. I had to learn how to do things I never had to deal with, and even the stuff I knew, I had to learn a new way. I’m not at all impressed with any of this.
That said, I’ve put a lot of great things into my life, I keep myself amused and have fun, I am creative. I do the best I can with what I have. Do I love my life? Hard no! I did not sign up for this.
He is hopefully ok, dealing with life. 
