What my crazy (analog smoker) wife did yesterday.......

[EvilZoe]

Gotcha beat

Im a great cook, or so im told...
Im a network engineer/systems admin. I get paid to geek

You have me on awesome vape gear however!

Hey, I SAID I wasn't a catch. I get paid to geek, too, just unofficially and not very much....lol




As per the direction this thread is taking....geez, people. The guy just shared something that happened to him like we all do. Lay off him a little.

Oh, and remember that our TONE of what we're saying can be easily misconstrued by others because text isn't always as effective at conveying tone as regular speaking is. Someone MIGHT see something you've written in something other than the way you intended and then react accordingly.

Everyone, back up, breathe....then get back to being outraged that his wife went nuts on him in this single action and support him.

 

[diggyb]

Uhm - an Internet forum full of anonymous people is probably one of the best and most cathartic ways to vent these types of life-issues.

As always - if you don't agree with a thread, don't click on it.

 

[Ladiekali]

Id leave mynsignificant other. Sounds like serious jealousy

 

[cags]

ya'll need to criticize the posts, not the person or a mod will close this down

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This conversation should not be taking place here. I can not say that strongly enough. The only thing people here can do is vilify your wife for acting in a seemingly crazy manner by throwing your stuff out. But it's not good for anyone on this forum to jump in here & talk about how crazy her behavior is when no one really knows what's going on in your house but you & your wife. Do the right thing & take it off the forum. Personally I feel really bad for your wife right now & this was a completely unfair thing to do to her.

I believe in getting things off your chest. better to come here where we are all anonymous and rant than to take out your extreme anger on the person or hold it in until it does someday expode! posting here gives a person a safe place to rant. and an adult is going to make his/her own decisions, not base them on anonymous people's opinions. and there is something to be said about feeling support from others.

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Honestly I find it hard to believe that you do really love her in the true sense of the word, or you would never have said some of the things you have said. I'm not saying you were wrong saying them, but true lasting love doesn't sound like that.............

but anger does sound like that. really, hasn't everyone said things in anger that they wouldn't normally say? and again, what better place to rant than an anonymous internet site?

 

[r77r7r]

AH! those passionate early years of marriage. Or is she a redhead?

 

[504_Brunhileld]

I try to be a honest and non biased person. Taking her analogs away wasn't right, just like her taking your vaping gear away wasn't cool either. No one likes a preacher, or we'd be living in churches 24/7 365. People will do things when they feel they are ready. I know from some of my posts this may sound a bit odd, but it's true. We can not force a loved one or a friend to do anything they don't want to do, or they will be bitter and resentful and the quit or what ever will not be as meaningful to them as if they did it on their own. I don't want to sound preachy, but it's true. Trust me sometimes I feel forced on to try this because I didn't understand a message on what a loved one said to me about the vaping. Due to them going stir crazy about a week and a half ago having a wisdom tooth removed they are indulging in an analog when they are about to go beserk, but only when they are going bat crap nutzy. I keep myself on the ecig even when I don't want the ecig and want a reg because I still feel pressured to do so due to the cost of getting started. But I know it was for the best I did switch, no one wants to live on benadryl due to allergens hitting them really hard. please if you love each other and don't want to mash each others toes, don't keep playing the oh yea watch this game, it only makes people bitter.

 

[Jayvaps]

Wow!!! I have a bazillion thoughts going through my head as I read this & the 1 screaming at me is that I should not comment. I'm going to anyway cuz I just feel like I must.

First, I'm terribly sorry that you & your wife are clearly having some sort of issue with you switching to vaping. I'm also sorry you lost all that stuff cuz it's spendy AND it was keeping you off smokes so it sucks that it was all taken away.

HST, there is clearly something more going on between you & your wife than what's being shared here. I don't think it SHOULD be shared here either. This is an ecig forum & not a support group for relationship issues. I hate that other people here are saying things like get out of the relationship (P.S. IT'S A MARRIAGE & "GETTING OUT" ISN'T SOMETHING THAT SHOULD BE TAKEN LIGHTLY FOR THOSE WHO ARE STILL SINGLE /rant) & all this when the fact is that no one here knows what's really happening in your house. You are being terribly irresponsible, thoughtless & selfish by bringing this conversation here when it should be being brought to a counselor or at the very least a close family member so you & she can get some help working your problems out.

This conversation should not be taking place here. I can not say that strongly enough. The only thing people here can do is vilify your wife for acting in a seemingly crazy manner by throwing your stuff out. But it's not good for anyone on this forum to jump in here & talk about how crazy her behavior is when no one really knows what's going on in your house but you & your wife. Do the right thing & take it off the forum. Personally I feel really bad for your wife right now & this was a completely unfair thing to do to her.

Meh. Drama and airing the dirty laundry is what the Internet is for. Well, that...and porn. lol

But seriously, sometimes people just need to vent about things. And FYI, this website IS basically a support group. It would be like an alcoholic sitting down in an AA meeting and venting about his wife, which I am sure happens all the time.

 

[diggyb]

And FYI, this website IS basically a support group.

That's exactly how I explain it to people.

 

[504_Brunhileld]

Not to brag, but honestly even tho sometimes I get aggrivated, I wouldn't trade my spouse for anything in the world, he has had my back and loved me in really hard times.

 

[Sundodger]

I will admit she got an earful but of course I would have done just as well to talk to a brick.....so the whole exercise was rather pointless and stupid....but since I like to make lemonade whenever I get lemons....I can't wait till my SVD's get here! I've got vape mail coming! Yoooohoooo!

I'd be in jail.

I think you'd better invest in some heavy duty lanyards and locks to keep your gear safe. I don't think it's over yet.

 

[wheezal]

oh just get even with her by sleeping with her sister or something. get it out of yer system and put it all behind ya.

10 pages, great-googaly-moogaly! that's more pages than i can count since the logging accident!

 

[jfango]

I had to stop back in so I could tell you what territory I was talking about earlier....if you haven't figured that one out yet...it's.....

FREEDOM OF SPEECH!

 

[aceswired]

and 100% this is not the right place to resolve the issue's

I don't think he's looking to "resolve" anything by posting his story here. He's venting. And this is a perfectly good place to do so.

 

[504_Brunhileld]

I wish I had time away from work, to enjoy that sort of thing, where I work we are in a lot of new projects and migrations. So hubby has reigns to the house while I atm handle that sort of thing. He is tasked with getting thru his final few classes and he will have his Bach degree.
As for cooking I make from what I hear the best no pork ribs slightly west of the mississippi, they are tofu and ppl still say they are unbelievable and they are so juicy and wet with bbq that its like taking a bath in them. They even freaked my only meat loving pal out to the point he was crying you lie, you lie... evil witch tofu can't be that good.

On a vaping note, as I am knida still new to vaping how do you handle excess stress or others at work who smoke, as I am still way to shy to let ppl see me vape.Im a great cook, or so im told...
Im a network engineer/systems admin. I get paid to geek


You have me on awesome vape gear however![/QUOTE]

 

[Rabbit Chaser]

Glad you have more gear on order! And I am happy that this is a place where we come and (mostly) share our vaping challenges without judgement or ridicule. Heated moments can get out of control but hopefully your wife will understand that acceptance is sometimes less damaging than resistance. Can't wait to see you post that you are back to vaping on your new gear!

 

[supermarket]

Hey sorry but I believe it's YOU who need to take a chill pill.....just sayin...no offense...but it's not like the whole darn world is going to show up at my door to create trouble for me or my wife, and if they did, they better have a gun because they might get shot. So keep your wits about you, because you're going into territory that belongs to me.

No offense, but YOU are the one who decided to post this on a public message board. You decided to start a new post, about how your wife insanely went nuts and threw your belongings (worth hundreds of dollars) into a creek. I'm not trying to be mean, but you obviously wanted to share your story, and in doing so, shouldn't consider questions or comments regarding what happened to be "off topic".

What did you honestly expect people to say? Did you think people would just say "Aww...I feel bad for you! Hope she doesn't do it again!" No.....people are going to question what the real reason is for your wife doing that.....because it is absolutely not "normal" to threw hundreds of dollars worth of personal belonings into a creek, simply because she doesn't think you should vape.

I agree, it *does* sound like there is much more going on here. Even if you don't realize it, perhaps to HER something else IS going on. Maybe that is HER way of expressing herself, because she hasn't been able to express herself verbally, or you haven't noticed she is upset.

People often act out in outrageous ways because they feel they aren't being heard of listened to.

Either way, I wish the best for you guys.

 

[Robino1]

I'm just flabbergasted! Totally and utterly flabbergasted!
The lack of respect just floored me.
I have a feeling your wife went out and got another pack of cigs or had some stashed somewhere.

I have no suggestions for you. I know what I would've done, but that's me.

 

[supermarket]

I had to stop back in so I could tell you what territory I was talking about earlier....if you haven't figured that one out yet...it's.....

FREEDOM OF SPEECH!

For the record, you don't have "freedom of speech" on online forums such as this. The freedom of speech you are referring to, which is part of the first amendment in the U.S Constitution, doesn't apply to online forums. Typically, on a forum such as the this, it is entirely up to the moderators as to what content is allowed, and what isn't.

Anyway, the only reason I'm correcting you is because time and time again I see people on online forums who believe they have "freedom of speech", not realizing that they don't.

Anyway, continue =)

 

[Rabbit Chaser]

Supermarket - sometimes people just need to vent and seek support. Just because people have the right to freedom of speech and are free to be cruel in their responses does not mean they SHOULD. And just because someone comes to a typically supportive and friendly forum to share a difficult situation does not make it okay to get on a soapbox and play armchair psychiatrist unless the person is asking for such response. Just sayin.

 

[Scootaloo]

She decided that my vape gear was making me go crazy and ruining my health, so she took about $200 worth of my vape gear (SVD, SS Zmax, with Protanks and batteries) while I was in the shower getting myself ready to go to work, and took them to a creek near our house, and tossed it all in.........she believes that I'd be better off to go back to analogs......
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The truth is that in the last six of the eight months since I'd quit the analogs, I've felt like a million bucks! I am of sharper mind than I think I've ever been in my entire life too.

So I took away her smokes, and now I feel kinda sick from smoking analogs because my order of 3 SVD's, 3 Protanks, and 4 batteries will take a few days to get here........and in the meantime......
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Now I sit and wonder which one of us is the dumbest of the two....not sure really....
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you just can't fix stupid, can you?
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Isn't life funny?

Ouch reading what your wife did really pisses me off: she thinks your getting worse because you don’t fill your body anymore with 5000 chemicals? She must be scared because she relised the smoking excuses day is done and she ain’t got one!

You should throw her cigarettes away and buy her a cheap cig-a-like or something and force her to vape.