Anyone have a non vaping spouse who thinks they are "Creepy?"

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Purple Haze

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My wife wasn't too happy when I started vaping. She doesn't smoke and didn't understand anything about vaping. Finally she actually engaged in vaping with two of my pvs. One she choked a little and the other she acted somewhat normal. Ever since then I have had a pardon! If she get pregnant and .....es or doesn't ..... I will run to the hills.
 

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Flowers. Buy them. Give them to her. This will buy some of your pardon. Tell her she's beautiful. Yes, beautiful, in fact more beautiful, because she's bearing the fruit of your love. This will buy a lot more of your pardon. Buy her some bon-bons. Now, you're off the hook. Simple, huh?

Seriously, I agree with most of the advice here. Buy the flowers anyway.
 
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Take her out on a date and don't talk about all of us creepy people, creepy gear, or creepy liquids. Her hormones are in overdrive right now and just wants you to herself without the ecig. Give her that! Tell her how beautiful she looks even if she protests because she's pregnant, then a candlelit dinner at a fancy place. Even baby shopping may help her settle down some. It's been along time since I was pregnant but going fishing always helped me...hubby would always go to the otherside to stop from hearing me yell about every stupid thing I could think of....LOL. I don't miss it.
 

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"Creepy", that tickles me! I don't think it has to do with her being pregnant, but more with the zeal of the newly converted. I want to learn more about it, and talk about what I learned, and use all these new terms (vaping, analog, etc.) when I talk about it...
My husband is a good sport and supportive of this, but I have to stop myself from revealing the true depth of my obsession with this brave new world. I even dream about it. Ye gads! I am creepy!
 

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But in your defense, finding e-cigs is like finding out someone found a cure for cancer (and the FDA wants to shut them down). Of course we want to know ALL about it.

This is so true! Thursday after picking one of my daughter's up from school (she had stayed late-the other kids were home already), noticing that we weren't taking the usual route home (I needed to detour to the grocery store for a few items), she asked, "Where are we going?" I simply responded, "For a drive." "To WHERE?" she asks again. So, with a poker-face, I say, "I gotta stop and pick up some smokes." (Note: It had been almost 6 weeks since my last analog) After a few moments she turns to me as says, "You are SUCH a bad liar! There is NO WAY you're going to buy smokes...I'm not stupid, ya know! GOD Mom...as if....you are so obsessed with your e-cig and are constantly telling people about it and showing it off...you're too excited about it to ever buy 'smokes' again! So,.....where ARE we going?" Kids, huh?! lol
 

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Creepy? I guess that depends ..

Does she want to pick baby names .... but all you can think of is pet names for your pv ? .. little vapy

Does she want to talk about baby formula .... and all you talk about is new e-juice flavors?

Do you look at breast pumps and baby monitors and think ..... hmmm, just need an atomizer and I could probably make a cool MOD out of this!

J/k ...

Just tell her you are sorry, but you are trying to make a huge life change for you and your families health and future - you want to be sure you are around for them - that you are struggling at breaking the tobacco addiction - and it's a process!

Best of luck! Oh and congratulations on your new pv ... errr ... I mean baby!
 

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Wow, bad time to start a new hobby bud. I'm going to assume this is your/her first, as if it weren't you wouldn't be shocked by this.

A.) If you love this woman, you REALLY better accept that for AT LEAST the next 2 years or so (depending on her trimester?) EVERYTHING will be about her and the baby. You don't matter. Your needs don't matter. Your feelings don't matter. YOU don't matter. You have ceased to be the picture in her life and are only the frame. Your job is now protection and support (much like a picture frame) to the central picture (her and the baby). Fair? No. Easy? No. Will she eventually remember that you're a person to love, instead "That guy that better get up at 2am with the baby so I can sleep."? Yes! And she'll also appreciate that you were there the whole time. Welcome to being a "Daddy", say goodbye to being the central figure, and congratulations! :)

B.) Your attention is diverted from what she sees as "The Picture". Your funds are being diverted to this new diversion as well. Never mind that you are most likely spending less money on PVs than you ever did on analogs. It doesn't matter. What matters is her entire being is directed at security on a biological level. She sees your attention diverted ("He isn't focusing on protecting us"), as is some of your funds "security" ("He can't take care of us if he spends all his money on those 'things' ").

In your wife's defense (and to divert the wrath of every woman on this forum, LOL), these feelings and her reactions to them aren't conscious. This is the result of about 100k years of evolution, and her responses are almost completely tied to biological hard-wiring and hormonal flooding. My advice is to focus LOTS of time and energy on her and the baby, and keep your personal interests on the quiet for now. As I said...they simply don't matter. ;)

To be quite frank, if you think this stage is bad, just wait until AFTER the baby is born. My wife was replaced by a snarling, savage, she-wolf on a bi-polar roller-coaster. I firmly believe the only thing that kept her from killing me was the fact that when my daughter was born, I became just as focused and insanely protective/devoted as she was. LOL!
 

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One of the things about vaping is that is a lifestyle change. When you run out of analogs, you run to the next store/gas station/vending machine and are really upset when they do not have your brand. In +30 years of smoking, I never changed from Reds.

Not so with vaping: different mods, attys, cartos, juices, voltages, etc. Lots of stuff to play with. I love to tinker and I have built my own mods and learned to rebuild attys (kind of an insurance policy in case of a ban, not something I would do since it is not cost effective. I get genuine Joye's from Puresmoker for $5 for orders of 25). It's a fun diversion for me, but it is not a conversation topic, because it is absolutely boring to others. I could talk about my guitars and music (have 7 and play classical and jazz), skiing, golf, reading.

Having said all that, do you really think that a pregnant woman could care less about your stupid little hobby? I am a man and can ask that question. She is about to bring a new life into the world with all of the long term responsibilities that go along with it. When I got married, my wife treated me like a king. She always treated me like a king, but king had to get in line behind other things life like changing diapers, feeding, reading stories, doing homework with our daughter, walks in the park with the baby, etc.

Later on, my daughter would joke that I came number 4: my wife, my daughter, the dog, and me. Sadly, we lost my beautiful wife and mother to cancer a few years ago. At 52, she could still turn heads. My daughter has become this drop dead gorgeous young woman who has just got her MBA and a great job in a bitterly competitive market. My quitting smoking was the MBA graduation gift she requested-not a new car which is what I promised her. That is what it is all about!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So get your priorities right. If vaping is all you have to talk about, then I feel sorry for you.

Yes, it is creepy, and that is coming from an avid vaper.
 
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