Russ, our dear burdened porcher,
I know we porchers swing from dismay through humor in our responses to your situations. Regardless, we do this only to give you either some understanding, support, hugs, a 'wake-up' call, humorous frustration/diversion or any combination thereof.
Within this cyber porch family, there are at least a few others that have battled some of your challenges. You have not received an ironclad solution due to the fact that you are you and we all have been dealt different 'hands'.
Just know that we care and would provide a solution if we could. Nonetheless,
PLEASE keep us updated in case a porcher can 'click da switch'!
With love from many here, take care of
yourself first...