Older Folks and Vaping Back Porch-Part Six

[clnire]

I have a downer to post but I am pretty upset. My 93 yr old Mother-in-law, who has been living in an independent living apartment for 2 years, a real go getter, don't mess with me, kind of woman who I have admired since I first met her, fell a few weeks ago. She just had eye surgery and had "floaters", one of which she thought was a bug and in trying to stomp on it, fell. Xrays showed nothing, they said she had siatica and to rest. Well, it didn't get better and she is basically alone;she doesn't socialize with others in the facility. She does not like "old people" (they die on her) and being the only Jew in the place, it was hard (DH and I were not involved in the decision to move her there, long story and this is long enough already).

Not getting better, the brother who lives near by took her back to the Dr. They did an MRI, found fractures in her pelvis. She got a rehab nurse, but being diabetic, was not eating or drinking. She was hospitalized yesterday to get her back in shape, then to rehab and then assisted living.

I am sure you all know where this will go. I have never heard of a person this age bouncing back to health from something like this. So how long? Who knows. From the vibrant, outgoing, strong woman I love, to a withering sad woman I still dearly love. We will spend as much time as we can with her, but with work and travel it is hard.

Sorry for a long downer post, but I needed to vent and I don't know of a better place than with my compassionate, loving friends.

On a good note, Geordi's breeder is a nurse at the hospital she is in, so she will check on MIL and keep us posted on any details we may miss. Chris is an ER nurse so not privy to everything, but she knows people who are.

I has a sad

 

[Myrany]

I luv my micro fiber towels! Bought a couple packages of 24 on $ale 'bout two decades ago; great inve$tment. One package is still unopened. Da list of how I've used 'em is all too long to post here. Did I mention I luv 'em?

Iffy keep an eye on the bargain bin at walgreens. About once a year they have a 10 pack of microfiber towels for $1.

 

[Myrany]

I have a downer to post but I am pretty upset. My 93 yr old Mother-in-law, who has been living in an independent living apartment for 2 years, a real go getter, don't mess with me, kind of woman who I have admired since I first met her, fell a few weeks ago. She just had eye surgery and had "floaters", one of which she thought was a bug and in trying to stomp on it, fell. Xrays showed nothing, they said she had siatica and to rest. Well, it didn't get better and she is basically alone;she doesn't socialize with others in the facility. She does not like "old people" (they die on her) and being the only Jew in the place, it was hard (DH and I were not involved in the decision to move her there, long story and this is long enough already).

Not getting better, the brother who lives near by took her back to the Dr. They did an MRI, found fractures in her pelvis. She got a rehab nurse, but being diabetic, was not eating or drinking. She was hospitalized yesterday to get her back in shape, then to rehab and then assisted living.

I am sure you all know where this will go. I have never heard of a person this age bouncing back to health from something like this. So how long? Who knows. From the vibrant, outgoing, strong woman I love, to a withering sad woman I still dearly love. We will spend as much time as we can with her, but with work and travel it is hard.

Sorry for a long downer post, but I needed to vent and I don't know of a better place than with my compassionate, loving friends.

On a good note, Geordi's breeder is a nurse at the hospital she is in, so she will check on MIL and keep us posted on any details we may miss. Chris is an ER nurse so not privy to everything, but she knows people who are.

I has a sad

Can't like that post but we can send prayers for her and all those who love her.

 

[misswish1]

I have a downer to post but I am pretty upset. My 93 yr old Mother-in-law, who has been living in an independent living apartment for 2 years, a real go getter, don't mess with me, kind of woman who I have admired since I first met her, fell a few weeks ago. She just had eye surgery and had "floaters", one of which she thought was a bug and in trying to stomp on it, fell. Xrays showed nothing, they said she had siatica and to rest. Well, it didn't get better and she is basically alone;she doesn't socialize with others in the facility. She does not like "old people" (they die on her) and being the only Jew in the place, it was hard (DH and I were not involved in the decision to move her there, long story and this is long enough already).

Not getting better, the brother who lives near by took her back to the Dr. They did an MRI, found fractures in her pelvis. She got a rehab nurse, but being diabetic, was not eating or drinking. She was hospitalized yesterday to get her back in shape, then to rehab and then assisted living.

I am sure you all know where this will go. I have never heard of a person this age bouncing back to health from something like this. So how long? Who knows. From the vibrant, outgoing, strong woman I love, to a withering sad woman I still dearly love. We will spend as much time as we can with her, but with work and travel it is hard.

Sorry for a long downer post, but I needed to vent and I don't know of a better place than with my compassionate, loving friends.

On a good note, Geordi's breeder is a nurse at the hospital she is in, so she will check on MIL and keep us posted on any details we may miss. Chris is an ER nurse so not privy to everything, but she knows people who are.

I has a sad

Prayers and hugs on the way, I am so sorry.

 

[MikeE3]

Good morning Good Folks!

Long time, no see...

A few months ago, beginning with a solo trip to So. GA to work at my Mom's house for a few days, Real Life shifted into high gear for me! Mom doesn't have WiFi and I am loath to glom onto a neighbor's signal - so in that week, I got out of the habit of coming here almost-daily, which rather quickly morphed into not spending any leisure time on a computer at all - just not enough time/energy to go around.

My son graduated Tech School last week (in the top of his class ... he missed honor roll by 0.6, with a 96.4 gpa), my daughter graduates high school next weekend (5th in her graduating class , so honor roll for sure), and my Mom has needed me a lot more often lately - she's "slowing down" noticeably, and more rapidly than I would've thought. She's quit doing yard work, quit going to her Sorority Sister luncheons, quit going to her church Wed. Senior day luncheons, quit going to my nieces' house to babysit her great-grandkids (Melissa brings them to her house once a week for part of a day)... she used to be so active, now hardly leaves the house anymore.

The prepping for the graduations - the attendant family gatherings and celebration parties, shopping for and purchasing grad. gifts, and busting my .... to work enough to pay for it all has kept me busier than a long-tail cat in a room fulla rockin' chairs!

Even tho I've been AWOL, I still think of all you good folks daily.

And even tho my absence began well before Odyssey week, I jumped back in and started reading (never liked the term 'lurking') a few days before the beginning of that week, and read daily for ~10 days or so. I wanted so badly to be able to go, but I knew my RL was going into over-drive at about that time, so I stayed out of any conversations about it. However, I did attend vicariously through the excellent photos, vids., and updates from attendees.

In the interest of brevity, more later...

Luv y'all, mean it!... Geno

Geno ... so good to see you dropping in again. Hope it keeps up. Wow .. you sure gotta be proud of your kids ... nice going.

I didn't really intend to tell y'all this until later, but - wife's in the shower, kids aren't up yet, and, for once, I don't feel like getting outside this morning just yet, so...

This past Mother's Day, my wife and I drove to my brothers house (~2 hrs from here) in my work van, followed by our kids in daughters car. After the festivities, my wife rode back home with the kids and I followed Mom home and spent the night with her. Monday morning, I went to Mom's rental house to finish up getting it ready to rent out again (last renters left it in a mess).

There by myself, on a quiet morning in a quiet, pleasant neighborhood. Around 9:15 a.m., I was bent over the back of my van, radio on, looking for a tool. Someone slipped up behind me, stuck (what I later found out was) a pistol at the base of my skull, and said something I didn't understand. Startled, as I stood up and turned around to my left, I saw a young black guy with a black knit watchcap pulled down to his eyebrows and a black mask pulled up over his nose, dressed in all-black clothes. I swept around hard and fast, raised my left arm hard and knocked his hands off me as I spun around. I stepped into him, pushing him back, and started hitting him... that's when I saw the pistol in his right hand. Even more startled, I jumped back - and he did too. From about 10 feet away, as we locked eyes, he held the pistol up about eye-level, sideways, and pointed it at me - and in that instant I thought he was going to shoot me.

About a millisecond later, I decided I wasn't going to stand still and get shot, so I turned, ran to the (thankfully open) driver side door of my van, reached between the seats and quickly retrieved my always-ready 9mm High Power. Flipped off the safety, turned around pointing the pistol in his direction... and he was gone. I ran to the edge of the carport and looked out to see him getting into a waiting black car at the edge of the street, about 30yds away. I raised the pistol and steadied it, lined up the sights on him, gritted my teeth, and... I didn't shoot - but I wanted to!

I'm sure I could have hit him at least once, and for sure could have shot up the car... but decided against it. If I had shot him, or even at him, while he was "retreating", I probably would have been charged!

Finishing my work there took the rest of the day... and wearing a full-size pistol while installing a new dishwasher, doing yard work, and fixing a fence is a pita.

14 seconds...

At home alone the next morning, in my back yard, I re-enacted the incident with a stopwatch... the whole thing lasted only 14 seconds.... and I could have been shot dead at least two separate times during that 14 seconds.

Quite a harrowing experience... the adrenaline dump alone took me two days to get over - it made my lower back hurt like the dickens!... just pounding, throbbing for days after...

Now I know first hand what is meant by "life changing experience". I'm more thankful, more introspective - and yet more cynical and less trusting.

And I'll never go to that house again (or even to Albany period) unless I'm wearing a Jackass Leather (now Galco) holster, with a Browning HP in it.

Oh my, oh my ... so glad your instincts kicked in and this came out OK for you. Good lordy ... I'm pretty sure I'd be a complete mess immediately following a situation like that. Don't know how you strapped on your gun and finished the work.

it wasn't 3D printed, but of course my favorite story is of Winter..... the dolphin that got a new tail. What an amazing story, particularly if you follow it through both Dolphin Tale movies! I was so close to her in Florida. Would have loved to have seen her and hope, but I do watch their live cam sometimes.


wow........what a great way to start the day!!!

In other (wonderful) news............
Today I am 4 years smoke free!!!! Never ever would have thought that was possible!!!

A big CONGRATS Debadoo

Happy Vaperversary Deb. 4 years is a major milestone. I find myself not even thinking about it anymore. Mine crept up and passed before any if us even realized it. I think after my fifth I'm going to stop celebrating them.

Well congrats to you to Matt. And no, you shouldn't stop celebrating ... we're selfish and like to hear happy news ... do it for us.

I have a downer to post but I am pretty upset. My 93 yr old Mother-in-law, who has been living in an independent living apartment for 2 years, a real go getter, don't mess with me, kind of woman who I have admired since I first met her, fell a few weeks ago. She just had eye surgery and had "floaters", one of which she thought was a bug and in trying to stomp on it, fell. Xrays showed nothing, they said she had siatica and to rest. Well, it didn't get better and she is basically alone;she doesn't socialize with others in the facility. She does not like "old people" (they die on her) and being the only Jew in the place, it was hard (DH and I were not involved in the decision to move her there, long story and this is long enough already).

Not getting better, the brother who lives near by took her back to the Dr. They did an MRI, found fractures in her pelvis. She got a rehab nurse, but being diabetic, was not eating or drinking. She was hospitalized yesterday to get her back in shape, then to rehab and then assisted living.

I am sure you all know where this will go. I have never heard of a person this age bouncing back to health from something like this. So how long? Who knows. From the vibrant, outgoing, strong woman I love, to a withering sad woman I still dearly love. We will spend as much time as we can with her, but with work and travel it is hard.

Sorry for a long downer post, but I needed to vent and I don't know of a better place than with my compassionate, loving friends.

On a good note, Geordi's breeder is a nurse at the hospital she is in, so she will check on MIL and keep us posted on any details we may miss. Chris is an ER nurse so not privy to everything, but she knows people who are.

I has a sad

{{{{clnire}}}}

 

[JerryRM]

Congrats Debadoo on 4 years smoke free !!!!!

 

[JerryRM]

(((Cinire)))

 

[Iffy]

Geno,

So great to hear from ya, my friend! As to your family., dey always come first; and congrats. As to your 'encounter'... <shiver, shake, self soil; not necessarily in dat order>. And a very judicious decision not to fire!


Very pleased you're back!

 

[3mg Meniere]

Cathy, your MIL has good family who love her, even though she has difficulty reaching out to others. I am sure she will get good care for the rest of her life.

 

[Iffy]

I have a downer to post but I am pretty upset.

Oh Cathy, how our hearts ache for you and yours!

Will say that being 93, she has had a generous opportunity to positively impact her family and 'environment'. Sounds as though she has done a terrific job!

Prayers out...

 

[oldbroad]

My dearest Debra,

In all sincerity and honesty, just a few moments ago I had to walk away from Patty due to her unwillingness to 'accept' her/my reality after a heart rendering 'discussion' as to how much she really wants to help herself! No, it's not a relation breaking encounter by any means... just a wake-up call that had to be 'discussed'. It's truly not her fault due to her past brain surgery. But, nonetheless, she never would have settled for her current situation if she/we had a choice! She never had a challenge conquer her. But this is one we both have to handle!

I only 'expose' myself here in that there are so many porchers that are so very concerned for your health and welfare. PLEASE, heed our loving inputs!


OBTW, if Kay agrees, I'll joyfully post da 'lap lap' pic to just to make ya ferget da sunsets...

Why, certainly I'll agree sweet Iffy..post away...

but I don't recall any " lap lap' Pics....

hmm. maybe ya better not

K/D

 

[oldbroad]

Cathy, my heart aches for you and your MIL. Tho, based on your discription of her, she seems to have lived a full, loving and loved life. heartfelt hugs and strength to you and all those that love her.

 

[oldbroad]

I must go to sleepytime now..meds are kicking in

 

[seapeach]

(((((Cathy))))) Prayers and thoughts are with you and yours. Keeping her involved and sharing your experiences are good ways to aid her transition. It's hard not to feel guilty when we can't do everything we expect of ourselves. Having "insiders" helps. You admire her and I'm certain she knows.

 

[Uncle Willie]

Oh, it's going to take more than this to knock this Cajun Queen down. I've still got my rapier wit,BWAHAHAhahahahah, vivacious personality, sick sense of humor, AND the Cajun accent. I'm going to try to be in the HO for Sunday brunch.

 

[Uncle Willie]

My 93 yr old Mother-in-law, who has been living in an independent living apartment for 2 years, a real go getter, don't mess with me, kind of woman who I have admired since I first met her, fell a few weeks ago. She just had eye surgery and had "floaters", one of which she thought was a bug and in trying to stomp on it, fell. Xrays showed nothing, they said she had siatica and to rest. Well, it didn't get better and she is basically alone;she doesn't socialize with others in the facility. She does not like "old people" (they die on her) and being the only Jew in the place, it was hard (DH and I were not involved in the decision to move her there, long story and this is long enough already).

Although I add my own personal thoughts toward your Heart, my belief is a life well lived and under our own terms (as much as that's possible) .. is a thing to celebrate and remember the best of .. I watched my Dad slide down the path of age, infirmity and dementia .. a self made man, proud and strong during the best part of his life ..

I know where you are at, and it's tough .. Make both her and your time with her the highest quality you can ..

 

[DavidOck]

Not getting better, the brother who lives near by took her back to the Dr. They did an MRI, found fractures in her pelvis. She got a rehab nurse, but being diabetic, was not eating or drinking. She was hospitalized yesterday to get her back in shape, then to rehab and then assisted living.

It might depend on her - spunk.

My MIL got similar cracks a bit over a month ago, although she's not diabetic, but is also 93. Been in a rehab facility for about three weeks now, still not allowed to put any weight on that leg. (Not until the bones knit.) She's actually bouncing back, and may come out of it more mobile than before.

Hopefully they can get her nutrients and liquids back up in a hurry. The rest will just take time, and if she's willing to put in the work, no reason to not recover. Just takes longer.

 

[Iffy]

but I don't recall any " lap lap' Pics....

hmm. maybe ya better not

OK, I'll send ya a PM wid da pic and ya decide...

 

[Rotowoman]

@clnire Sorry to hear about your MIL. Hey, who knows. Anything could happen, and she could bounce back. Prayers going out for her!!

 

[MamaTried]

bless you, Kay. you've always been my secret crush



and... yiddle

after yet another day of taking 8 hours to freakin get out of bed, i think i may have actually gotten smart enough to take the gift you sent me months ago into my bed instead of leaving it on my desk.

bless you for...





ETA: just to be clear, yiddle sent me some glucose pills, sometime after she and Kay saved my life, a while back...