Older Folks and Vaping Back Porch - Part Three
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A Motley Crew if there ever was one .. a rag tag Band of Brothers and Sisters brought together by some inexplicable happenstance that will never be fully understood ... yet, here we are .. for better or for worse ..
{{{{{{Dancing}}}}}} I don't normally give big hugs but you deserve one. It sounds to me like you are doing great. When I had my cancer surgery I didn't recover to the point your at in near the time you have and you had a much tougher surgery. You also sound like you have wonderful children who really love their momma and although we brothers don't saying it much, most of us really love our sisters. Keep up the work (and I know it's work) and get better real soon.
I'm gonna riff off this for a minute or two .. and BTW, Johnny, when you drop the cartoon voice and get down to it, you're pretty good ...
The, let's call them Elders, for lack of a better term .. IOW, those that have stayed with us from Day One, thread One .. since I suggested we are our own Tribe a while back, I don't think Elders is too out of line ..
Anyway .. in bits and pieces, or bits and bytes, over these years, we've come to know each other pretty well .. in fact, speaking for myself, and myself only, there have been times I've poured my soul out on the table (others have done the same) .. I don't know how much History each of us retains as it relates to each other .. I remember a lot .. others may choose to forget .. or have skipped parts of the narrative ..
My way has always been to just let go and speak from my heart .. others hold back .. why, I think because it can be tough to delve deep .. I obviously don't worry about it .. because, if we are truly friends, then I won't be judged ..
Yet, here's the rub .. I believe many just want to keep things light and funny .. and when I go dark and brooding, it upsets the equilibrium .. even though, if the Elders remember, I have told my story in bits and pieces over the years .. and, as you put so well .. "we each exist in our own, very individual, reality based upon needs, wants and expectations; and regretfully to a major extent our influential 'life mistakes'." ..
My point is simply this .. those that have stayed on the Journey here, know .. those that join us later do not necessarily have the benefit of that History .. unless they go through tens of thousands of past posts anyway .. and to those I say "I am not the Loon I appear to be at first glance" ..
My old friend John Prine said it best ..
Some of us get light and funny because the other option tends to be too painful. I tend to joke about everything but, as I think you know by now, take things fairly seriously. This group of folks is pretty much the only good friends I have right now. I am a very social person but, have been stuck in the house for way too long. Also, I found out when I got sick and sobered up that most of my "friends," weren't. I reached out and ask my "brother's" at the local VFW (where I was an officer for a while) for help with my rental house that I had to take care of before I went into the hospital for my surgery and not one of them even bothered to acknowledge the request much less get off their lazy asses and help out. Believe it or not a guy from where Doree was working at the time came over and spent several evenings and the weekend helping me get the rental place in order and I didn't even know him. I am sorta in the same boat now. You all know that I have been talking about getting the house ready to sell so we could move to Florida for almost two years now and Doree could be closer to her mother who suffers from Alzheimer's. What should have taken me a couple of months has taken this long because my health sucks and absolutely nobody has volunteered 5 minutes to help me. We finally had to tap into Doree's 401K (and pay the penalties) to hire a contractor to help and still we aren't done. I also have to get the motorhome back into sellable condition. Sorry to vent so loudly tonight but I needed to. And I wonder why I can't sleep.
I truly feel that you all are some of my best friends and that if it wasn't for distance and/or physical ailments most of you would be here helping. I really love you all you know. That's what you do with friends, may not say it much but it doesn't hurt to let you all know once in a while.Now back to your regularly scheduled programming....
May I proffer that we each exist in our own, very individual, reality based upon needs, wants and expectations; and regretfully to a major extent our influential 'life mistakes'. Don't mean to get metaphysical or religious here; that's also a very personal place. BUT, the only reason to fear/question our current/future reality is our ability, or lack thereof, to control where we really want to be!
Wolf,
Must ask if you've ever tried to share your altered reality/experiences with others. If you have and have been 'rejected', then don't give up. If you haven't, I'd guess that you'd might be pleasantly surprised with support, or at least others sharing their similar stories. Some pain means we're alive!
IMHO, life is not meant to be spent alone, even within a 'crowd' . It's just not in our DNA. <BTW, I'm not a fan of crowds> Regardless, everyone has a life story that can assist, comfort or reinforce others!
OK, after rereading this prior to posting, I really didn't mean to get so serious. Yes, I've been lonely, scared, doubtful and at various times insecure. Gotta say that for me, lonely is the worst. But, I always knew that I've been 'loved'! For me, THAT is the essence of life!!
So when I'm a lil' down, I'm drawn to our porchers. Just wish the love and concern shared here could be a universal given!
Ya don't even want to know da Vegas odds...
Not tried to share as I said its just how I cope and probably not transferable to others.
Suffice to say perhaps an emotion your mind is having can be changed by you changing the perception.
Doesn't have to be real seeing as the emotion doesn't have to have to be proven. You can feel like its the end of the world in your mind without any proof just the feeling. So you can replace one feeling with another , sort of like when people have a panic attack and their told to focus on something and concentrate on their breathing , its too distract them from the feeling of dread.
Can be a time limit and not easy to maintain , also dependent on if you have an actual mental disorder or just feeling down.
Matt...I would certainly help you, ( and i'm a newcomer to this amazing place),as would just about everyone here. I felt so welcomed right from the first here on the porch. I have to think that the length of our lives, the adversities we've all gone through, the strength and knowledge we've gained through all our trials and tribulations over the years have given us an inner strength and some modicum of wisdom that the young haven't experienced or achieved as yet.
maybe the bottom line is that we have survived, accepted so many things that we can't change and did our best to make better the things that we can change..i.e., ourselves, for the better. We all know that we are survivors , that we don't have to..or need to...strive so hard in any area of life. I'm pretty sure that I've finally come to the point where I can just 'Let It be".
I thank you all for the warm welcome, it means more to me than you may ever know.
Deb, thank you for inviting me here!!!!!
and yes, mama bear, i'm now going to bed for real..
sheeesh
maybe the bottom line is that we have survived, accepted so many things that we can't change and did our best to make better the things that we can change..i.e., ourselves, for the better. We all know that we are survivors , that we don't have to..or need to...strive so hard in any area of life. I'm pretty sure that I've finally come to the point where I can just 'Let It be".
I thank you all for the warm welcome, it means more to me than you may ever know.
Deb, thank you for inviting me here!!!!!
and yes, mama bear, i'm now going to bed for real..
sheeesh
I too am still awake. Doree too which is highly unusual. She's hurting from up and down a ladder painting. It's one of the things that I should be doing but can't, my knees and hips don't care much for ladders these days. She is downstairs having a bowl of cereal. I can hear her. She would be ...... that I am posting online but, I'm not really sleepy either. Tired, hell yes. Sleepy not so much. Still gonna put down the phone and give it another try.
Nice one bells ... gave me a good chucle after reading the touching RL posts of the past few pages.
Well, that's what we do on the porch, welcome new old friends.
And those who decide to join the family and rock a while, well, they're as welcoming. Those who don't come here with that attitude of acceptance and joy in new friendships, well, there's a lot of other threads for them. (And we've had a few come and go because they weren't willing to handle our foibles. Their loss, as we'd all be willing to handle theirs!)
Well I just got all caught up from the weekend. Whew! I need a little nappypoo.
Happy Monday everyone.
Willie, just for future reference. . . I've had my feeling hurt but I can't ever remember being offended. Wanna be my first?
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Happy Monday everyone.
Willie, just for future reference. . . I've had my feeling hurt but I can't ever remember being offended. Wanna be my first?
((((((((((Matt)))))))))))) you may not give big hugs much, but I do!!! Wish we could all come help ya. I aint climbin no ladder, but could do some cookin or sumpthin!
(((((((Wolfy)))))) I'm in a huggy kinda mood this mornin......deal with it!
I don't know if I do what you do or not, but maybe similar. Took me a long time and a lot of work to get to this place and I don't always succeed, but basically, if I can't change the situation I do my best to find the good in it, it's usually there somewhere, and that helps me to change how I feel about the situation, or how I react to it. Some things are much harder than other things. If I'm stuck in a miserable situation, just try to put that out of my mind as much as I can.....laugh as much as I can, and focus on what is good. And all y'all are vital cogs in that plan!! I'd truly be lost without all my porchers, reonauts and the hangout!! yw.....but omgggggg hell is fixin to freeze over or sumpthin.......cuz......I went to bed before you did!!!
that's freaky!! that was hilarious. Had my skillet in hand before I watched it........cuz no one makes fun of Patsy Cline around me!! But it's safely back in it's cubby now, loved that!
Mornin y'all!!!
Hey Mz Torey...........ok...........it's no one's birthday (that I know of, I'm sure lots of folks somewhere are havin bdays), BUT.........scott is in the hangout, and Kay will be here soon and they BOTH want to hangout with you soooooooooo bad!! I think I've seen em both cry and whimper when they heard you were in a hangout. Especially poor Scott. and....if I get to h/o with you again and they don't.......they may turn on me and hurt me!! 
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Hey Mz Torey...........ok...........it's no one's birthday (that I know of, I'm sure lots of folks somewhere are havin bdays), BUT.........scott is in the hangout, and Kay will be here soon and they BOTH want to hangout with you soooooooooo bad!! I think I've seen em both cry and whimper when they heard you were in a hangout. Especially poor Scott. and....if I get to h/o with you again and they don't.......they may turn on me and hurt me!!
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WOW!!!! you're REALLY good at beggin'!
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