Tootle Puffers, Redux (The Sequel)

[DingerCPA]

Happiness is an inside job. Most unhappy people are simply waiting for someone/something else to do it for them.
I'm happy because I choose to be happy. (and you can't stop me)

Ermahgerd! Did you spend the weekend with my cousins' mother, too????????? (I don't call her my Aunt because she and my Uncle divorced 40 years ago .... For what I perceive to be pretty well-understood reasons )

She is a sad, sad human being. Nothing and no one will ever make her happy - because she doesn't know how to be happy for herself....

 

[Krisma]

Ermahgerd! Did you spend the weekend with my cousins' mother, too????????? (I don't call her my Aunt because she and my Uncle divorced 40 years ago .... For what I perceive to be pretty well-understood reasons )

She is a sad, sad human being. Nothing and no one will ever make her happy - because she doesn't know how to be happy for herself....

It's hard to be around people who are that miserable and even harder to stop yourself attempting to fix it.

 

[AndriaD]

Ermahgerd! Did you spend the weekend with my cousins' mother, too????????? (I don't call her my Aunt because she and my Uncle divorced 40 years ago .... For what I perceive to be pretty well-understood reasons )

She is a sad, sad human being. Nothing and no one will ever make her happy - because she doesn't know how to be happy for herself....

That's the problem, exactly -- NO ONE can actually "make" someone else happy. You have to choose to be happy, and if you don't make the choice, then usually you're unhappy.

Kinda like smoking... all these people are running around maniacally looking for the thing that will "make" them quit smoking, and they're never gonna find it -- because it doesn't work like that. To really quit smoking, first you have to choose that. Then you have to find a way to make it possible. Or, for some of us, first you find the thing that can make it possible -- vaping -- then you choose it, and it happens. But no matter how much you vape, if you don't actually make the choice to quit... you'll just keep smoking, wondering why vaping isn't a magic wand that makes smoking disappear.

Andria

 

[Krisma]

That's the problem, exactly -- NO ONE can actually "make" someone else happy. You have to choose to be happy, and if you don't make the choice, then usually you're unhappy.

Kinda like smoking... all these people are running around maniacally looking for the thing that will "make" them quit smoking, and they're never gonna find it -- because it doesn't work like that. To really quit smoking, first you have to choose that. Then you have to find a way to make it possible. Or, for some of us, first you find the thing that can make it possible -- vaping -- then you choose it, and it happens. But no matter how much you vape, if you don't actually make the choice to quit... you'll just keep smoking, wondering why vaping isn't a magic wand that makes smoking disappear.

Andria

Perfectly put

 

[AndriaD]

Perfectly put

That was exactly how I experienced it, when I was trying to get smoke-free the 2nd time, after my relapse. I kept vaping and vaping, wondering why I was still smoking, with all this vaping going on. Gradually it occurred to me that the first time around, I actually had made a choice to just not smoke anymore, but it was so subtle, it was hard to remember actually making a choice. So I finally told that 2yr old in my head to SHADDUP ALREADY! harping at me to go smoke, go smoke, because I JUST WASN'T GOING TO DO IT ANYMORE! The 2yr old shaddup.

Then of course, the cravings did come back, after I'd been smoke-free again for 10 days. But I'd made a choice not to smoke, so instead of caving instantly, I got some WTA and tried that. And it worked. Probably because I really needed it to work, and also because in the aftermath of intestinal surgery, my body really needed those other alkaloids -- but I still had to make the choice to get them from something other than cigarettes.

Andria

 

[Krisma]

That was exactly how I experienced it, when I was trying to get smoke-free the 2nd time, after my relapse. I kept vaping and vaping, wondering why I was still smoking, with all this vaping going on. Gradually it occurred to me that the first time around, I actually had made a choice to just not smoke anymore, but it was so subtle, it was hard to remember actually making a choice. So I finally told that 2yr old in my head to SHADDUP ALREADY! harping at me to go smoke, go smoke, because I JUST WASN'T GOING TO DO IT ANYMORE! The 2yr old shaddup.

Then of course, the cravings did come back, after I'd been smoke-free again for 10 days. But I'd made a choice not to smoke, so instead of caving instantly, I got some WTA and tried that. And it worked. Probably because I really needed it to work, and also because in the aftermath of intestinal surgery, my body really needed those other alkaloids -- but I still had to make the choice to get them from something other than cigarettes.

Andria

It's quite amazing what we can achieve with the most subtle of mind shifts.

 

[Woofer]

Gradually it occurred to me that the first time around, I actually had made a choice to just not smoke anymore, but it was so subtle, it was hard to remember actually making a choice.

Excellent story and lesson on personal responsibility.

 

[tj99959]

AND, I just got back from making an installment on my life insurance.

 

[eGoinMD]

Ok, so I am an ABSOLUTE tootle puffer(which I will always be, ALL HAIL THE TOOTLE!)...


Anyway..... stepson #2, who I cannot figure out(uses a Tesla II with a dripper most of the time), has given me as a BDay present, an eGo one "sub ohm(.5)" tank. I have never used it, and won't "unless" I can get some CLR style heads... just saying....

For ME, CLR has NOT been the norm.....

Well....


Back to YES!!!!!
I am a TOOTLE PUFFER!!!!!

 

[Robert Cromwell]

Happiness has to do with chemistry, neurons and hormones and stuff, and I don't think I'm wired right...
Happy B'day to all the birthdaygals and -guys

Yep some of us missed the happiness gene.

 

[DancingHeretik]

Pick yourself up and decide to be happy. When that's the response to someone saying they're depressed or unhappy, it's just plain cold-hearted. Or, horribly ignorant.

Most depressed people do pick themselves up and make the choice to be happy. But, between physical causes and the need to learn how to make the needed changes, It's just not that simple.

 

[Robert Cromwell]

Pick yourself up and decide to be happy. When that's the response to someone saying they're depressed or unhappy, it's just plain cold-hearted. Or, horribly ignorant.

Most depressed people do pick themselves up and make the choice to be happy. But, between physical causes and the need to learn how to make the needed changes, It's just not that simple.

Been picking myself up for 61 years. It has gotten to be overly tiring.

 

[DancingHeretik]

I have learned many things that have helped, a little here, a little there. But, the single biggest change was going through menopause. Suddenly the unbearable weight was gone. I wonder how often doctors consider checking hormone levels instead of prescribing drugs?

 

[LJFinFLA]

After I retired I took the motto. "My name is Chuck and I don't give a !!!
At this point in my life there ain't a damn thing that gets me down. At least not for long!

 

[LJFinFLA]

I have learned many things that have helped, a little here, a little there. But, the single biggest change was going through menopause. Suddenly the unbearable weight was gone. I wonder how often doctors consider checking hormone levels instead of prescribing drugs?

There's no money in checking hormone's!!!

 

[Robert Cromwell]

After I retired I took the motto. "My name is Chuck and I don't give a !!!
At this point in my life there ain't a damn thing that gets me down. At least not for long!

That is VERY GOOD.
Some of us do not really have any choice though.
No more than telling a blind person to open their eyes and see.

 

[Robert Cromwell]

There's no money in checking hormone's!!!

Ohh big money in Hormone replacement therapy.
In both males and females.
Low T ads?

 

[LJFinFLA]

Ohh big money in Hormone replacement therapy.
In both males and females.
Low T ads?

True. I was talking about the prescription end of Dancing's comment.

 

[fourthrok]

Pick yourself up and decide to be happy. When that's the response to someone saying they're depressed or unhappy, it's just plain cold-hearted. Or, horribly ignorant.

Most depressed people do pick themselves up and make the choice to be happy. But, between physical causes and the need to learn how to make the needed changes, It's just not that simple.

If it was simple to just "pick yourself up and decide to be happy"...it'd be lovely. But it isn't that simple. Kindness is helpful.

 

[tj99959]

That is VERY GOOD.
Some of us do not really have any choice though.
No more than telling a blind person to open their eyes and see.

So what is the condition that seemingly has no solution.