Tootle Puffers, Redux (The Sequel)
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Absolutely. If you love someone, then their happiness should be as important as one's own... it should be a big part of one's own! Dismissing something as "unimportant" simply because one doesn't share that interest... doesn't sound much like love to me. Sounds more like immature self-involvement -- "it doesn't matter to ME, so it's not important."
Now that I've gotten to a really comfy place with vaping, hardly any of that "shinyitis" obsession, there are a LOT of paydays that my husband spends a lot more on his coin hobby than I do on vape stuff... even though it was losing the cigarette expense that made it possible for him to return to his coin hobby. But when there are things that I truly *need* -- that shisha strawberry flavoring, for instance -- then he doesn't spend so much, so that I have what I need. It's give-and-take -- I care about his happiness, and he cares about my comfort in remaining a non-smoker, because my non-smoking is VERY important to him! Not only does it free up a big portion of the budget, but he'll get to have a wife for probably a good deal longer, than if I had kept smoking.
Andria
I agree. This she just doesn't understand. Which also led to an ultimatum between her and vaping many months ago (which I really told her was the most stupid thing to do).
She has problems seeing that even the little things I do or want can be important to me, and gets mad when I choose that between her sometimes (I'm talking about little, quick things). Mostly she's not like that, but when she is, it's terrible.
She does her thing with the nails and stuff. I'm okay with that. It doesn't neccesairy mean that I understand the point, but I understand that she want to do so. And i respect that. And I do want her to respect my hobby and what's important for me. But she doesn't see it that way a lot of the time.
Vapez
She is still very young, and has a long way to go, apparently, before she is mature enough to understand that some of her attitudes are really not helpful for a healthy and lasting relationship. It appears that you are far more mature, at this point, than she is. But, again...you both are very young. Many things will shift and change as you get older. Also, as you raise the child together...you both will learn much more about personal sacrifice and loving unconditionally. You've only just begun.
We are both very young. Actually she's a year older. Although she is really good with our daughter, and other things, there's a lot that is very immature about her.
But I certainly hope so. That she'll learn more about "give and take".
Vapez
Yes... I was 27 when I had my son, but I did a lot of growing up myself, raising him -- especially the part about needing to sacrifice some of my own desires, to his needs. But I'm really glad I waited till I was 27, to have a child... not sure I could have managed the necessary growing up, had I been younger.
Andria
I have so very little to say in this thread... I guess the weather is getting at me, we've had nothing but grey skies and rain here lately. And storms! I had to save my horse from a flooded stable. The horse is what keeps me sane at the moment to be honest. I'd like to spend the winter in bed with my cats next to me, but the horse needs to be cared for. And I have to work of course. I've allowed myself one week in my bed (called in sick) and then I scraped whatever energy I had to get back to work again. Depression is a ....., to be quite frank...
@Vapez, is it impossible to get a side job with your education? Surely they have student loans in Norway? I worked almost fulltime next to college, which either says something about my intelligence or the educational system in NL ::facepalm Back then, I had more money to spend then now with an almost fulltime job Oh well, crisis and all that I guess...
Can't give any advice on relationships though, I do my best to not have one
@Vapez, is it impossible to get a side job with your education? Surely they have student loans in Norway? I worked almost fulltime next to college, which either says something about my intelligence or the educational system in NL ::facepalm Back then, I had more money to spend then now with an almost fulltime job
Oh well, crisis and all that I guess...Can't give any advice on relationships though, I do my best to not have one
That's whose video I posted. Hope it showed right.
I could, but then I'd never have time to be with my family or do house work. Yet alone time for my studies. I struggle even without a job.I have so very little to say in this thread... I guess the weather is getting at me, we've had nothing but grey skies and rain here lately. And storms! I had to save my horse from a flooded stable. The horse is what keeps me sane at the moment to be honest. I'd like to spend the winter in bed with my cats next to me, but the horse needs to be cared for. And I have to work of course. I've allowed myself one week in my bed (called in sick) and then I scraped whatever energy I had to get back to work again. Depression is a ....., to be quite frank...
@Vapez, is it impossible to get a side job with your education? Surely they have student loans in Norway? I worked almost fulltime next to college, which either says something about my intelligence or the educational system in NL ::facepalm Back then, I had more money to spend then now with an almost fulltime job
Can't give any advice on relationships though, I do my best to not have one
Thank you for the advices though! Why won't you be in a relationship? I understand that people don't, just curious
Vapez
I hear ya there.. Trying to do ANYTHING, even getting out of bed is a task..I have so very little to say in this thread... I guess the weather is getting at me, we've had nothing but grey skies and rain here lately. And storms! I had to save my horse from a flooded stable. The horse is what keeps me sane at the moment to be honest. I'd like to spend the winter in bed with my cats next to me, but the horse needs to be cared for. And I have to work of course. I've allowed myself one week in my bed (called in sick) and then I scraped whatever energy I had to get back to work again. Depression is a ....., to be quite frank...
@Vapez, is it impossible to get a side job with your education? Surely they have student loans in Norway? I worked almost fulltime next to college, which either says something about my intelligence or the educational system in NL ::facepalm Back then, I had more money to spend then now with an almost fulltime job
Can't give any advice on relationships though, I do my best to not have one
"liked" this comment out of sympathy...not because you feel bad! Get better soon, Mikey!I hear ya there.. Trying to do ANYTHING, even getting out of bed is a task..
Oh, and didn't notice the first part of your post!I have so very little to say in this thread... I guess the weather is getting at me, we've had nothing but grey skies and rain here lately. And storms! I had to save my horse from a flooded stable. The horse is what keeps me sane at the moment to be honest. I'd like to spend the winter in bed with my cats next to me, but the horse needs to be cared for. And I have to work of course. I've allowed myself one week in my bed (called in sick) and then I scraped whatever energy I had to get back to work again. Depression is a ....., to be quite frank...
@Vapez, is it impossible to get a side job with your education? Surely they have student loans in Norway? I worked almost fulltime next to college, which either says something about my intelligence or the educational system in NL ::facepalm Back then, I had more money to spend then now with an almost fulltime job
Can't give any advice on relationships though, I do my best to not have one
Depression is terrible. I know. I've had tons of dark periods in my life, many ups and downs and depression is not an easy condition. People outside don't understand you and complains that you're too lazy, anti social and all that, while you would do anything to be able to do what everyone else seems to be doing; having a normal life!
Sending positive energy your way and best wishes. Hope for you to get better soon
And with that, I'm off to bed. Hopefully my daughter sleeps through the night so I can get at least 4 hours sleep tonight. Googd night tootlers
Vapez
I hear ya there.. Trying to do ANYTHING, even getting out of bed is a task..
Yep.. been there, done that, I can totally relate. I've had just a *touch* of it lately, but nothing like I suffered 10-12 yrs ago, thank GOD. I've finally accepted that depression is just a fact of life for me, sometimes worse, sometimes better. I think accepting that helps me deal with it, that some days will be worse, some better.
Hang tough!
Andria
I was wondering... What's a Tootle Puffer. After running a google search I found what’s a tootle puffer? Are YOU a Tootle Puffer?? | aspire blog that I may qualify... I have a Kayfun, a Nautilus mini, I am running Kanthal coils @ 1.6 ohms, @ no more than 4V but, I am sub-homing with 0.3 ohms Ti RTA coils in a TC mod. So I'm still wondering...
You still qualify. And welcome. Several on here dabble in to sub ohms from time to time and don't get kicked out. Self included.
Who (takes a hit from his sqounker with .5 Clapton coil and blows a huge cloud bro) would they be??? 
Yeah we don't even kick out Claptonizers unless they get really obnoxious about itWho (takes a hit from his sqounker with .5 Clapton coil and blows a huge cloud bro) would they be???
But if your Hero is Rip Tripper and all you want to do is build.1 and blow clouds for days this might not be the correct thread for you.
there are plenty of threads on that on here could help you more in that pursuit than most of us Tootle Puffers could.
Sit a spell and tootle with us. We are a good bunch of rejects.
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