When we bought our property there were pine trees planted along both sides. As they got bigger we had every other one removed. 30 years later the remaining trees are enormous. Yesterday we noted that one of the biggest ones located between the driveway and the house has some kind of ugly cream colored globs on the trunk and many other spots on the trunk were weeping sap. Uh oh. We've got some kind of beetle borer or possibly Zimmerman moths, maybe both! That tree is going to have to come down and I don't know if any of the other trees have it too! This could end up being crazy expensive. I'm going to take pictures of it and take it to our local Extension Service and see what they can tell me. Wish us luck!
Older Folks and Vaping Back Porch - Part Seven
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I thought of that also and I'm sure they would but I heard they aren't that good. But maybe you are right
Go for it, Pat. Can't be any worse than what you have now, and may be the help you need, or able to point you to better assistance.
Well we just got the worst of this prognosis. Ginnys CANCER is progressing very fast no and there is no hope. They give her 6 months on the outside. They suggested that she should stay with Hospice. This Cancer is spreading so fast that if they do treat it it will come back somewhere else nearly immediately. I don't know what to do. There is nothing I can do that would help. It has also spread to the brain and will just continue to spread no matter what we do. This is a real blow to the gut and and everywhere else. I don't think the blame is on me.
If I may be so bold to suggest . . .
YES - "You" Do Know What To Do . . .
AND - There is something "You" can do to help Ginny and even yourself in the long run . . .
At this moment - Just "BE WITH HER" - by continuing to show her all the emotional support she still NEEDS, and especially the LOVE that You have always had for her . . .
"You" Really DO NOT Have To Do Anything Else . . .
Just Sayin' . . .
Once again - I'm Sending . . .
GOOD VIBES & Healthy Thoughts
to both - Ginny & You . . .
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.to both - Ginny & You . . .
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Oh Patrick, I'm so sorry. Even though you had to know this was coming it's still an awful blow. I totally agree with Uncle. Just be together with Ginny and do whatever you can to help keep her comfortable.
Yes this is a terrible blow. It happened so fast. I just don't understand why this is happening to us. Life just isn't fair. We are just shook up over this. Well her nurse is here and mine just drove up.
'Morning all...
Janet...I just shared some video on FB that my daughter took of what the spotted lanternfly egg masses look like... You might want to take a look and see if it's what you're seeing on your tree...
https://www.agriculture.pa.gov/Plan...fly/SpottedLanternflyAlert/Pages/default.aspx
Thanks for the info. I've done a lot of research on those little bastages and fortunately we haven't spotted any egg masses in our yard. They are in surrounding areas though so it's just a matter of time. What we have here now are definitely not the spotted lantern fly although I don't know what's going on toward the tops of the trees. The borers are a worry though. We saw the devastation in Colorado from them and it's heartbreaking. I'm hoping to get to the extension service tomorrow and hopefully get some expert answers to be sure of what we're dealing with.
I don't know what to do. I had a panic atack midnite. I know they are going to try to have me comitted. me leaving manor care was a mistake.i dont' know. What has my life become. I don't know what I'm going to do. Ihave gone off the deep end and they are go are going to be calling as soon as they. I don't want to be locked up but its like my mind snapped. I'm so afraid. I don't want to be locked up. I don't know if I had a nervous breakdown or whatLife used to be fun. My O2 dropped to 80 my pule was at 153. I'm going to beg them for 1 more chance but I've already had about 5 one more chances.I'm lost in a vicious world and they are not going to give it to me.
Well they are not going to have me picked up. I have a doctor appt today. I'm going to tell her about the mental problems. They start between mid and 3am. Alyssa is setting things up for us to get a Medicaid care giver.. I am just turning everything over to thers. We have begun a search for an assisted living arangement on the other side and I am going to move. Houses here in this area are at a premium. They found 1 it's $3600 a month for a 1 bedrm. But that includes every thing. Round the clock if need be. I'm very sorry if I cause undo misunderstanding for my problems. I think this is the path I need to take. I need to get off the pills and that is going to be a problem but I have to do it or I will end up at Eastern State mental hospital. So I am taking the least of 2 ways to go. I recognize that I have been very selfish with the way I have been living. We'll get thru this, please God help me to do this without undo problems.
YES!! This sounds like it's going to be a very smart move! It's going to be weird to make such a change, but it's sorely needed. Get this taken care of and you focus on Ginny. She needs you now more than ever and just being there with her is most important. Talking to the doc about how you're feeling mentally is definitely needed to help you both. Strength to you my friend.
Pat, you are right where I was when we received the same prognosis with Nancy’s cancer. When we received the word of the diagnosis of her cancer we spent six months doing all we could to search for the cure. We went to three different cancer centers, one here in Oklahoma and two in Houston, Texas. We wound up with treatment here in OKC. Despite our efforts, it was the discovered the treatments were not effective and her cancer was growing at an unanticipated rate. After this diagnosis, we spent the next 5 months making memories. Eleven months from the date of diagnosis to the end of the battle against cancer.
I went through anger, blaming myself, and all other emotions. I still suffer from depression. Writing this to you is bringing up all sorts of feeling that I had buried. What I am trying to say is what you can do now is be with her, even if all you do is sit holding her hand. Any little thing you can do to ease her pain, show her she isn’t alone, and is still loved by you. Her family will be a big help so let them help you in her care. There was a lot more that I was going to say, however, it is really hard for me see my keyboard. Take care of yourself and be as strong as you can be for Ginny.
Patrick, this is all I can offer you right now, but know that it comes with sincere fondness and good wishes!
Thanks Jerry. It is a hard thing to do. I know she is not knowing what is going to happen next. She gets really mad if I try to help her with anything. She says it just reminds her of what is coming. We really don't know. So far I have only seen small changes especially in her mood. I had some trouble with her signing up with Hospice but after we talked to the radiation oncologist she said it was the right thing. Nothing they have tried worked for very long and more treatment just seems to make it spread faster.. I can only imagine how hard it is to talk about. Making this move will help but we have to figure out how we can do it expeditiously. I know the house here will sell fast, people are just waiting for one to come up in this area. Then it is figuring out what we want to do on that side. Changing doctors won't be a problem. I'd like to figure out a way to get her on that side so her family can come and visit. She has 13 brothers and sisters and all except 2 live on that side of the state. I am still learning how to talk about it, she doesn't like to talk about it at all and that is fine. She knows it is a done deal. They have tried everything they have as far as chemo and radiation and it will go at that spot then turn up in another. I blame myself because I finally forced her to go to the doc because her oximeter readings were always low and started getting worse. The Chemo worked for a short amount of time but when it was dormant in her lungs it showed up in her liver, they hit that spot and worked for a short time and showed up again in the lungs and now 2 lesions in the brain which is somewhat noticable with her memory and her thinking process. This thing is a terrible disease. Between 4 doctors they gave us the options of trying more treatment causing her to feel really bad plus everytime it looks like it is going to work and it shows up in a different place, so they gave us the options of doing more but hey are convinced it isn't going to work or just resign yourself to what appears the inevitable and live your life or what is left. We don't see it as giving up, just deciding there is nothing that will help, if it does it is only temporary. I'm glad you said something, I have been waiting to hear from you because I knew you went thru something very similar, thanks for that Jerry.
Thanks a bunch, we seem to have so much to do in a short time. And I know it comes with that and thank you.
He has such sweetness all over him! GIMME THAT BABY!Him Easter funnies...
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Well my life is in the toilet. Between Ginny and my granddaughter they are making all the decisions. Anything I have to say is not important. I dont know what to do. They are deciding where we are going to live how we are going to make this move. It's like I never existed. I feel totally unimportant in any decision making. When I say what I think they just laugh at me. I don't know what to do anymore. I am just nobody now for some reason. They won't listen to me. I'm just here to provide the retirement money. Anything I say or do is not important. It is a terrible feeling. I've done pretty good up until now but it doesn't matter I don't know what to do. I just wish I'd die and be out of this. Idon't know what to do
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