Older Folks and Vaping Back Porch - Part Seven

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I've done pretty good up until now but it doesn't matter I don't know what to do. I just wish I'd die and be out of this. Idon't know what to do

Hang in there, Pat, Ginny needs you.

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Well my life is in the toilet. Between Ginny and my granddaughter they are making all the decisions. Anything I have to say is not important. I dont know what to do. They are deciding where we are going to live how we are going to make this move. It's like I never existed. I feel totally unimportant in any decision making. When I say what I think they just laugh at me. I don't know what to do anymore. I am just nobody now for some reason. They won't listen to me. I'm just here to provide the retirement money. Anything I say or do is not important. It is a terrible feeling. I've done pretty good up until now but it doesn't matter I don't know what to do. I just wish I'd die and be out of this. Idon't know what to do

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Patrick. Show them this post.
I've done more then that, I asked them what am I doing that they are making me feel this way and they said I am making this move so difficult, in the mean time they figure its just find a place to rent rent it and thats it nothing to itjust sell this place which we have a $60k equity in do it in a couple days and it's all over. I think if it was up to them we would just leave this place. I asked why I was feeling like I don't have a place in this move and they more or less said you don't. I don't get it, what am I doing that is making it so hard especially whtn I dont even have a say. I don't even know what I am supposed to do or say. I'm not trying to make everything so difficult but apparently I am. I just wished I would die and get out of this.
 

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Pat, I suspect that your behavior in the past few months has indicated that other people should make those decisions. Depressive talk, accidents, and who knows what else, since we only see what you write.

This is my honest opinion, and I really don't want to hurt your feelings, but I think it needs to be said. So sit back and let them take care of it. You need to relax. You can't take care of her, so quit trying to control the situation.
 

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So sit back and let them take care of it.
Well thats what I thought I was doing. I told them just tell me what you want me to do and I will try. Somehow I am not doing it to their satisfaction. Apparently I am not doing something right. I've always tried to do what she wants to do. All of a sudden I am doing everything wrong. I just don't know how everyone wants me to act. I don't know how to act or not to act. I will do whatever it is that they want me to do. I also can't understand what kind of stress she is under, stress and the pain of what she is going through. I can't even imagine.I just want to make things as easy as I can going into this. I don't think it can be no matter what I do. I know I'm not going to be able to sleep tonight but I'm going to try in our bedroom. She sleeps in the living room and I have been doing the same but I think that is worse for her then if I just went to bed. I am pretty sure she is blocking that out which is good I think, I am so afraid of the future and just how to handle it.
 

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    Ok, fess up people - how have you cheated on your prep day for a colonoscopy?? Tomorrow is prep day and I think I'm going to try a dollop or two of milk for coffee and tea through out the day, lol.
    Some of the prep kits offer to have a light breakfast in the morning nowadays.
    I'm such a rebel, lol.
     

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    Pat, I suspect that your behavior in the past few months has indicated that other people should make those decisions. Depressive talk, accidents, and who knows what else, since we only see what you write.

    This is my honest opinion, and I really don't want to hurt your feelings, but I think it needs to be said. So sit back and let them take care of it. You need to relax. You can't take care of her, so quit trying to control the situation.

    Very well said.

    @Legs.....preturbed posting has had its effect as well as the evidence of overwhelming stress. Kicking opioids "cold turkey" usually results in behavior such as you have exhibited as well as trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel for you and for Ginny. I think they are doing you a kindness by relieving your stress.
     

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    This was all just angry posting. It's not like that at all. I love Ginny with all my heart and I feel so bad for what is happening to her. I'm angry not at them but at me. I wish this whole thing wasn't happening. I just don't know what to do. We are going to look for a senior apartment in an area where we will get the most help. We are really going to need it. They are pricey but within our budget and include rides if needed. They are really nice. This is not where I ever wanted to live but now it has come to be a nesecity. She will have a lot of help from both sides. This will benefit me as well. Within about 25 miles she has several Bros and Sises and her mother is about 45 miles so it will be a really good location My daughters are within 20 miles and tons of older grand kids on my side so it will be a good move for all or I hope it will be. I'm sure it will be. Will keep you posted.
     
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    I can't dispute what you feel, but I wonder how much of that is based on your own current physical, mental and emotional state. Opiod withdrawal will do strange and bad things.

    Since time is critical, perhaps they're just wanting to get everything that side wrapped up quickly, so you BOTH can move to the west side where support is more readily available.
     

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    Ok, feup all night long ss up people - how have you cheated on your prep day for a colonoscopy?? Tomorrow is prep day and I think I'm going to try a dollop or two of milk for coffee and tea through out the day, lol.
    Some of the prep kits offer to have a light breakfast in the morning nowadays.
    I'm such a rebel, lol.

    Well first of all - No Matter what "You" have for breakfast (but I suggest keep it light - you'll find out why later if you don't), it will be gone very quickly - especially as soon as you drink the solution . . . BEEN THERE - DONE THAT . . . :facepalm: Just Sayin' . . . ;) :lol: :lol: :lol:

    As for having dairy products in your drinks (even if only a few drops), to be honest - that is a NO NO . . . :nah:

    Now - While I followed the Dr's orders and directions for the most part , particularly not to have anything, but clear liquids (however, being a Diabetic, had fruit juice) throughout the 24 hours prior and til the procedure . . . :( . . . Might I strongly suggest, if you do not want to have to get up all night long waking up and HAVING TO RUN . . . Start taking the solution/drinks to purge your inner's earlier then directed . . . Personally, I started around 12 Noon and was finished drinking the solution by the evening, and while I was still up & down throughout the evening -THANKFULLY - I was not getting up all night long running back & forth, and had a decent night's sleep (well at least for "Me") . . . ;)

    So - GOOD LUCK, hope everything comes out all clean & fresh . . .

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    BTW: Thankfully - I don't have to go back for another one for 10 years . . . Just Sayin' . . . ;)
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    Dearest Pat
    I hurt for you.
    Please let them know how you are feeling about their actions.
    Maybe then you can all approach things with a different style/attitude.
    Maybe you need to approach a lawyer and have him/her advocate for you. And possibly relieve your fears.
     

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    Ok, fess up people - how have you cheated on your prep day for a colonoscopy?? Tomorrow is prep day and I think I'm going to try a dollop or two of milk for coffee and tea through out the day, lol.
    Some of the prep kits offer to have a light breakfast in the morning nowadays.
    I'm such a rebel, lol.

    Nope, never cheated because I didn't want to have to go through all that again. And, as long as the doc is in there I don't want her to miss anything. One trick that helped was making jello with only half the water to it feels like you're chewing food. You can have juice and soda as long as it's not red or dark colored. Don't know if that includes coke, but I wouldn't drink grape soda.

    It's funny, but I was anticipating being famished after the procedure and thought we could stop at the diner on the way home, but I really wasn't hungry. And wouldn't you think you'd loose at least some weight? Pffft!
     
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