I would probably tell my husband at that point that if we don't talk, why are we still married? And since he has no intention of paying for a divorce and I don't have the means, that would mean a nice long bout of marital counseling -- which he also doesn't want to pay for. It's cheaper for him to just listen to whatever I have to say, and say "yes, dear."Or argue back, but his verbal skills don't approach mine, so he usually sticks with "yes, dear."
Andria
Im in southern Louisiana which is still under Napoleonic laws. That means there is no such thing as common law marriage. That also means she cant play the threatening divorce game or make me pay by forcing me to go to marriage consoling just to show me who is boss. I have done a good job of taking care of her these many years. Only thing I ever asked is to talk to me before a major expense. If she wants a brand new car, ok, but let me know first so I am not blindsided by the payments. But dont ever think I have to get permission to spend what I earn. I dont play that way. In a relationship neither one should ever have to get permission from the other for anything. If one has to get permission from the other then they are no longer a spouse but a sub-servant instead.